Woman Expects Sister in Law to Babysit for Free on Vacation, She Refuses, Exposing Her Brother’s Negligent Role as a Father

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 16 hr. ago Either Club4020 AITAH for refusing to help my SIL with her kids while on vacation
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    For the record, I know my brother is an a hole. I, 23f, am a child free ER nurse. I don't like kids, even if they're related to me. My boyfriend feels the same way. I've always had the stance to friends and family that I will never babysit ever. It's never
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    been an issue until now. My parents rented a cabin this past weekend. The family hasn't gotten together in a long time, and since it was our mom's birthday wish we took a vacation.
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    In attendance was our parents, my three older brothers, my brother David's wife, and their six combined kids. 4 of which are just my sils kids from a previous marriage, and 2 are hers and David's, including a four week old baby.
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    Her and David have the agreement that he will pay all the bills and she will do all of the childcare. He does absolutely nothing for his kids, except playing ball with her oldest in the yard sometimes. I think she's dumb for agreeing to this one
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    sided arrangement, but she's been a SAHM her entire adult life and has no earning potential, so I guess that's why she agreed to it.
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    On the trip, for some reason, sil had it in her head that because I'm a woman close in age, that I would help her with her kids the whole time so she could take a break. She kept trying to hand me her baby, or would ask me to do stuff for her kids. Every time I would say no, and would tell her
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    to ask her husband. I only went on this trip to spend time with my family who I rarely see. My parents live three states away and I rarely get to see them.
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    By the end of the trip sil would alternate between constantly crying to making rude snippy comments at me. I feel like it's completely undeserved. I didn't marry her or get her pregnant. And she isn't even related to me. I have no clue why she isn't mad at
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    my brother, and not me. He was kind of clear about him being an ah le before she even married him. He told her that he wouldn't change a single diaper, but she decided he would be the man to give her babies number 5 & 6. AITAH?
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    Paco DTaco69 • 15h ago • NTA. Not your kids. They choose to have them and your brother knows where you stand. Sounds like your brother needs to have a conversation with his wife.
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    judgingA-holes • 15h ago • NTA - Not your kids, not your problem.
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    no_more_cat_2... • 15h ago • NTA. SIL wants someone to blame and to project her internalized misogynistic beliefs onto OP: "you are a woman too; women should help (another woman or childcare)" The double.
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    standard applied to you and your brother is disgusting.
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    MikeReddit74 • 15h ago • NTA, but I hope your sister gets her tubes tied. That's a lot of kids to manage, especially with a husband that isn't pulling his weight.
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    shadyzeta579 • 15h ago. NTA. Tell your SIL that you are both on vacation. The difference is that one of you has kids and the other does not. I could see lending a hand occasionally if she were a single parent. But the
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    fact the kids have both parents there but only one is doing actual parenting is wild. She can be mad all she wants but it's not your responsibility to step up if your brother refuses to do his part. What would happen if one kid gets hurt and has
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    to go to the ER? She has to bring them all with her? She needs to reevaluate her relationship and not be bitter towards you for something you have no part in.
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    Otherwise_Deg... 15h ago • NTA. Her life would have been better if she worked as a waitress and stopped having kids. 4 kids were more than enough. Your brother is a major A. and his kids will hate him and go no contact as soon as they can.
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    You have no obligation to care for their children and especially miss time with your parents when you rarely see them.

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