Sister of the groom put to work as the bride-to-be's muscle when handling their ornery wedding planner: ‘I loved every minute of it because no one can act like that with my family.’

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Apr 16, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

When it comes to planning a wedding, it's not easy. Even the best planner of your friend group—they will be the most stressed when planning a wedding. Sure, it's cheaper to try and do everything on your own, but it will cost a lot more of your mental stability. So that is why people tend to hire wedding planners to help them out. Someone who has planned a wedding many times before and know how to get you the best deals and exactly what you want. Sometimes they are so good at what they do, you don't even care that they aren't the nicest person… Like in the case of this Reddit story. Luckily, the family had the bride's back. 

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  • The couple hired this planner because, in their town, good wedding planners were few and this one had a great reputation. She also had a reputation of being an unkind person. So the groom put his sister in charge of making sure his bride-to-be wasn't getting pushed around and treated poorly. And, boy, was she more than up for the job! She loved having her family's back, even future family! And that wedding planner was put in her place many times. It turned out to be a beautiful wedding and bonding moment for the bride and her future sister-in-law! 

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  • "I was a Zilla substitute and I don't regret it."

    So my oldest brother is 28 and I'm now 21 but this happened when I was 17 and still living at home with my parents. My brother and SIL were getting married and when going through wedding planner candidates, they landed on apparently the best one in her field.
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  • After their initial first meeting with her, it became clear that while she knows what she's doing and will help them have a gorgeous wedding (it was), she didn't have an ounce of kindness, very catty and condescending especially with my SIL (who is an
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  • absolute sweetheart who doesn't like conflict or calling out people) Since my brother couldn't attend most meetings after the initial one (travels a lot with his job)
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  • and didn't want my SIL to be alone and possibly let their wedding planner walk all over her, he enlisted me. He just walked into my room and was like 'You might be just enough of a b to speak her language' and
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  • then he told me the story and asked me to be at all meetings that he won't be in. And you know what? I loved every minute of it because no one can act like that with my family. I
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  • attended a total of 6 meetings. She was big on time and the first time I went with my SIL, she commented about our lack of punctuality (parking issue) before even greeting us so I started timing her on everything. I told her that
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  • we want a detailed time frame for everything from wine tasting to cake to flower meetings to lighting meetings to priest meeting, etc. And if we went over her time frame, I made snarky comments on lack of punctuality. She made a
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  • comment about a type of cake 'that not everyone has a palate for' a direct hit at my SIL so when the planner nearly choked on her salad in the food tasting, I commented that not everyone has table manners. She
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  • commented on my SIL's weight at the first dress shopping, next time I commented about her top not fitting her right and that not all clothes are work appropriate. There was a lot more but I can't write all of them or this post would be a mini novel length.
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  • My SIL laughing after having retreated into herself from the planner's comments was worth it, though. By the wedding day, the planner hated me so much that she avoided and dodged me all day and night. No regrets.
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  • Apprehensive-Owl3431 Every bride needs someone in their corner like this
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  • katerinara Man, I would be a great rent-a- itch for polite ladies who can't stand up for themselves. Anybody need that?
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  • SoonerRed zilla sub? Or Bride guardian! The_Sanch1128 Bride Guardian. She Who Stands Up For Those Who Can't Do It Themselves! I think OP could be on to a whole new line of business.
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  • nevergonnasaythat So young and so assertive! Well done. I wouldn't have hired a woman like that though. ThatOneGirlyx05 OP Thank you! Yeah, when my fiancé and I started planning our wedding we skipped her altogether because I had enough of her for one lifetime.
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  • refreshing_username There ain't nothing better than a sibling who's got your back. You go!
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  • StarryNorth Sister, you're a rock star! The only method that works with condescending twits like that wedding planner is to take no prisoners. Well done, you!
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  • Marmenoire Yeah, I'm that person for two of my siblings. My now ex-SIL was having issues with the shop getting her dress. She had deadlines for fitting/ alterations. because the wedding was in another country and flights had already been booked. I really felt it was because on the initial appointment it was her and her Mom, who doesn't speak English, and SIL who has a noticeable accent. The
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  • consultant was told at that time about the deadlines and had assured them that they had time. Only to give her attitude each of the several times she called to verify the dress had arrived and to schedule a fitting.
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  • It took one phone call and magically her dress was there and she had an immediate appointment for a fitting( within the same week when previously all she'd gotten was a take it or leave it attitude).This after a couple of weeks getting the run around. Wedding and bride were beautiful on the day.
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