Allergic woman’s Brother-in-law breaks up with girlfriend after she smuggles dairy into her house, causing 2 ER visits - 2nd Update: ‘He didn't want to be with someone who clearly didn't care about the people in his life by putting someone in danger’

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Apr 22, 2025 6:00 AM EDT

Let's rewind: on the last episode of Lactose and Unbalanced, our allergy-prone host braced for another round of Cheddar vs. The Human Airway, after her brother-in-law's girlfriend repeatedly tried to sneak dairy into their allergy-proof home like a lactose-loving ninja. After two ER-followed visits, a spirited round of bag-checking policies, and the kind of family drama that could power three Thanksgiving dinners, the internet staged a much-needed intervention.

Here's the update, which comes with more twists than a string cheese. The homeowner provides further clarity, reminding us that this isn't about crumbs in the trash, it's about the reckless disregard for a house rule designed to keep its owner breathing.

After some soul-searching, the homeowner and fiancé finally take the advice of five hundred strangers: No more second, third, or fifteenth chances.  Brother-in-law, still sporting the emotional equivalent of a Please Kick Me sign, actually steps up, eagerly apologizing, and takes decisive action.

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  • In the big family plot twist, Brother-in-law confronts his girlfriend, who responds with a dazzling three-act performance: denial, tears, and manipulation. The reviews are in and, folks, she’s out. Brother-in-law, now unburdened, reveals he was never happy anyway and was eyeing a move. The now-ex’s grand plan to keep him from a fresh start via allergy sabotage was thwarted, along with any future dairy drama.

  • "UPDATE 2: AITA for demanding to go through my BIL and his GF's bags if they are staying with us"

    "She tried to convince him that I was lying and trying to ruin their relationship"
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  • So I have talked to my BIL. We had a long and emotional conversation. I won't post it all here, since some of the stuff we discussed is personal, but I still wanted to update you guys
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  • To start BIL kept apologizing and saying he should have checked with us, not just believed his GF, or now ex GF. He went on to explain how the reason he
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  • wanted to talk with me today instead of yesterday after the call with my fiancé, was because he felt like he had already failed us for believing his GF. (We do not
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  • agree with this at all, and do not blame him.) So he wanted to show he truly is remorseful of everything that has happened, not just say the words, but show it through actions.
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  • After the call with my fiancé, he confronted his ex. Ex first tried to convince him that I was lying and trying to ruin their relationship. That didn't work, so she tried to
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  • manipulate him with tears. BIL explained it as now that he has fully seen all of her crazy behavior, he immediately saw how manipulative she is. A lot
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  • more happened, but I won't go into detail, since it isn't my story but my BIL's. The end result is that he broke up with her.
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  • He also told us more that we didn't know, including how they actually broke up after the second time they visited us. He didn't want to be with someone who
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  • clearly didn't care about the people in his life by putting someone in danger. He explained they were broken up for about two months, and only got back together after she sent him a message saying she had reached
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  • out to me and we had worked things out because she felt awful, but didn't expect anything from him. Now it is clear that it was just manipulation to get back together with him.
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  • More we didn't know is also that BIL hasn't been happy where he currently lives for the last year or so, and one of the reasons he often comes to visit us is because he has been considering moving to our area. So I have a feeling
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  • she has been doing all of the crazy stuff in hopes we would blame BIL, and if we were mad or low contact with him, he wouldn't move. More manipulation, I won't put it past her.
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  • BIL also sent out a message to their extended family explaining the whole situation, in case she reaches out to the family, and this way, I won't have to relive the trauma surrounding an allergic reaction to explain what's been going on.
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  • I also told BIL and my fiancé about what it is like for me to have a serious allergic reaction for the first time. What it feels like and the absolute horror I go through. That was definitely the hardest part of the conversation for me.
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  • Neither my fiancé or I blame BIL. The way I see it, he is a good guy who sees the best in people and who has been manipulated by his ex. He is still more than welcome to stay with us, and with
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  • everything he told us about how he has been feeling lately, we are excited to have him stay with us, and hopefully be able to help him out with everything going on.
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  • A lot more was said and talked about, but I think these are the important parts for the update. If I have forgotten anything, I will add an edit here. Also, thank you
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  • to everyone who commented and helped me with the situation. Hopefully, this is the last part, and we can go back to focusing on our wedding.
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  • Soul-Arts Yikes. Ex is a awful human being. I am happy that BIL was able to see beyond her act and move on.
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  • MaggieManush1 This sounds like it turned out great for everyone except for the ex which is fine. I'm really happy for all you that you're safe and that he isn't with someone who is so manipulative and toxic.
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  • kicker203 Awesome (soon to be) in laws are awesome.
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  • Lirialea Glad everything ended well. Let's hope BIL's ex-girlfriend isn't crazy enough to try something else.
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