Husband refuses to buy Mother’s Day gifts or celebrate with his wife, claiming she’s not his mom, and goes to his mother’s house instead, pushing her to go no contact with her mother-in-law: ‘She has never been a fan of me and has made it known’

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  • "How would you respond to your husband if he insisted on going to his mother's on Mothers day because you're "not his mother""

    "You don't have to do anything for me on Mother's Day because you're NOT your mom?"
  • I'm curious how everyone else would handle this. My husband's mom always wants us to come to her house on Mothers Day. If i say no, I want to do something else, he says go ahead, but he won't
  • join as he will be going to his mom's house because "I'm not his mom, so he isn't obligated to celebrating Mothers Day with me or buying me gifts."
  • Now, I don't mind him going to his mother's, but I AM the mother of his child and would.like him to do something special for me too.
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  • Does anyone else else have a husband who says this? That they don't have to do anything for their wife/mother of their child on
  • Mothers day because you're NOT his mom? How did you handle it? Am I justified in being upset? Thank you in advance
  • EDIT 2: Sorry for lack of details...4 kids...2 are his stepkids, 1 is his bio child and 1 we adopted. 3 of 4 kids are adults and out of the house. Youngest (bio) is still.in
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  • High School. Husband mom doesn't care if I show up or not. As long as him and his bio daughter show up shes happy.
  • His mom has never been a fan of me and has made it known throughout our 20 years together that she doesn't not like me for
  • reasons unknown. Which is why I dont wanna go over there anymore. I recently made the choice to go NC with her.
  • EDIT 3: Bothe of my parents and grandparents have passed away. My mom in 2008, my step dad last August, 2024.
  • I'm almost 50 and I truly did not expect this reaction. My stepdad had the SAME outlook...he never did anything for my mom for
  • mothers day, probably why she ended up divorcing him after 10 years...huh?
  • I am not going to leave my husband. But I will have about talk with him. You all had some really good points about the day itself and the meaning behind it.
  • Thanks for opening my naive eyes. Oh how times change...
  • lovely-dea I've been in this situation before. Couples therapist sided with him. She also stated that I am old enough to make my own plans with my own children (our children) for mothers day if that's what I want.
  • So every year I plan my own mother's day (3 years now) and every year I have a great time with the kids. His mom cancels on him for the most random reasons and I haven't backed down and I won't back down.
  • He can't be bothered to celebrate me on the day society dedicated for me then that's fine. I can literally buy myself flowers and brunch with the kids.
  • On the flipside, he gets nothing for fathers day because I'm busy celebrating my dad since you know.... Hes not my dad
  • sneeky_seer I'd legit come back with "no I'm your wife and mother of your child but I can stop being your wife”
  • MissMurderpants What does he expect on Father's Day? I'd give him the same energy on Father's Day. Go ahead to your mom's hon. Then You and child can chill or go hang with your maternal figure or other moms. And on Father's Day you can go visit your dad or whatever.

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