‘I want my privacy’: Daughter refuses to sleep on Airbnb couch with her boyfriend during 6-night family vacation, parents accuse her of ruining the trip if she books another place to stay

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May 13, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

When your family is planning a once-in-a-blue-moon family vacation, you'd hope that they'd get their head count correct—nobody wants to share a room with their little brother or distant uncle twice removed. Once someone who's attending has to opt for the pullout couch instead of having their own private quarters, don't expect them to attend still. After all, sleeping on the living room couch, not only by yourself, but with a boyfriend, means you have to sacrifice your own privacy while everyone else gets sleep without worrying about being woken up at the crack of dawn because somebody was craving ice cream at 5 AM.

The daughter in this next story is expected to sleep on the pullout couch during her family vacation with her boyfriend because her aunt miscounted the number of people going. Even when the daughter suggests she rent a place nearby, her family insists that she's going to ruin the trip. Well, if they think that, then the daughter might not go at all. Scroll to read.

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  • Kids are always expected by their parents to make sacrifices, but nobody else wants to sacrifice their own comfort in return. It's all fun and games until an adult on the trip is asked to give up their room so the daughter can have privacy with her boyfriend, right?

  • "I would rather not be woken to people starting their day and I would rather not have to change in the bathroom each and every time..."
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  • "AITA for booking my own Air BnB so I don't have to sleep on a couch for six nights?"

    My immediate and extended family have booked a vacation for later in the summer. My aunt who found this place knew the owner and they got a great deal. My aunt initially said there are six bedrooms.
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  • One room for her and her husband (my uncle) One room for my parents One room for my cousin and her husband One room for my other cousin and his wife and one room for their kids are are both under 10.
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  • The last bedroom you may wonder.. is where my aunt made an innocent mistake in miscounting. There are only five bedrooms. They told me that my boyfriend and I will have to sleep on a pullout couch.
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  • I told my parents I would rather not sleep sleep on a couch even if it does pull out. I also don't want to make my boyfriend sleep on the couch with me either for
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  • his own privacy. It's in the living room which is in the middle of everything. I would rather not be woken to people starting their day and I would rather not have
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  • to change in the bathroom each and every time or even leave all my stuff in the living room as well. I don't want to change in my parents room either because I
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  • know I would probably rush so that they can have their own privacy. I don't want to put my luggage in anyone else's room
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  • and fill their room with my clutter. Same goes for my boyfriend, I don't want to make him do all that either.
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  • My family has never had this big of a vacation all together in such a long time. I would love to be involved and what not but I said I
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  • would rather not go if I can't have a room to myself OR I'll book my own place nearby and I WILL pay for my part for the main house everyone is in regardless.
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  • My mom refused both options as I will "ruin" the trip if I don't stay under the same roof. If I get my own place to stay it would
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  • SOLELY be to sleep. I plan to be with my family at all other times and events. I don't care about the price of only getting an Air BnB just to sleep. I want my privacy.
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  • Haven't mentioned it to my cousins or anyone else yet that I'm considering getting my own place as close as possible, though. AITA?
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  • Worth-Season3645 NTA...I would get your own Air bnb. Why can't the kids get the pullout couch? Are you expected to pay your fair share? What would that be? Is it per family? Person? Like, are you expected to pay the same as all adults but the kids get a room?
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  • As for mom, how will it ruin the trip? And if she feels that way. Is she willing to take the living room? I think not.
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  • It seems your Aunts whole family gets the main rooms. Maybe. suggest to mom that she might like to air bnb with you and boyfriend, where if they need quiet time, they have a place to do so. Mom is probably saying the trip would be ruined, because she would be the only ones from her part if the family if you do not stay there.
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  • Medium Alternative372 NTA. I notice they are very quick to try to guilt trip you with 'you are ruining the vacation' but no one else has offered to fix this by taking the couch themselves. Go get your nice airBnB.
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