17-year-old daughter agrees to let mom use her bedroom as home office in exchange for money, leading jealous 15-year-old brother to accuse mom of favoritism: ‘You're out of luck, son’

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    AITA for giving my daughter $60 a week, but my son nothing?

    I (45F) have two kids, 17F and 15M. We moved earlier this year to be closer to my parents as my parents health is declining. My daughter was excited about
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    the move, but my son has struggled to adjust. Due to the move, my job shifted to hybrid, and I needed a work-from-home setup. My bedroom is too
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    small, and the only options. were the lounge or one of the kids' rooms during school hours. I proposed this to them - my son flat- out refused ("no way in
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    h"), but my daughter offered her room and half- joked about charging me rent for the space. I thought it was fair, as I get a $20/day work-from-
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    home allowance. I agreed to give it to her if she was okay with me setting up a small office in her room. I work from 8:30 to 5:00, and she usually starts
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    homework right after I finish, so it's worked out well. Now the issue: my son is ped that his sister is
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    getting $60. I don't do regular allowances, just canteen money (about $10/week) and other needs as they come up. I told him he had the same
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    opportunity and was now sh out of luck. He got angry and brought up the move, saying he never gets to see his friends. (For the record, I drive them back to
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    visit every two weeks for visits) I told him I understood his feelings but said I wouldn't tolerate being spoken to like sh He then started an argument with his sister
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    too - going in on her for being an opportunistic b and she called him a whiny little a h le. To cool off, I offered one of them the option to stay at
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    their grandparents for the night - not as a punishment but to break the tension. My son opted to go & while dropping him off, my mom told me I was favoring my daughter and
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    should be paying them equally. My dad disagreed, saying my son had the chance and was sh out of luck. AITA?
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    ETA: The conversation took place over the course of the afternoon, and I didn't immediately agree to the deal with my daughter. I offered it to my son first,
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    who reiterated "I "I no" and "get the f out of my room". I also should mention the reason I have the smallest room is due to the lack of
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    insulation in the ceiling and flooring making it damp, and as we're heading into winter I wasn't sending either kid in there. The room also fits a single bed, and a set of drawers - with
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    essentially no other space at all. We own the house in Auckland NZ, and I don't have the spare cash to get it insulated at the moment (or even fit any of my equipment to work from home in there).
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    Atlas_Hid Offer your son a "job," like weekly a couple of things to do. It could be things like taking out the garbage or yard work or even vacuuming. That way he has an opportunity to receive money too.
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    alyxmorganvo NTA I'm with your dad. Your daughter took the option to co-share her room, & came up with a win-win situation. If your son had been
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    less angry with you over the move, he might've come up with a similar solution. It's too bad that your son is having such a hard time with the move, but you're right that he has
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    no call to treat you like cop or talk to you like c p. Hopefully things will calm down eventually & that your son will start making new friends.
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    Crafter_2307 YTA. You said he was having trouble adjusting - that's the only safe space he currently has. Anyone, especially a teenage boy is going to have a knee j reaction to a
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    suggestion that his space may be invaded. You've uprooted his life - and by the sounds of it he doesn't have the income to be able to go socialise with anyone else outside of school even if he's invited.
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    You must've known the limitations in advance and this should have been discussed before moving.
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    HolyUnicornBatman NTA. I'm with your daughter and dad. Despite it starting as a half- joke, your daughter's quick thinking (and kindness to agreeing to your situation) nabbed her extra money. It just goes to show that
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    being nice and kind in any situation (familial or anything in the real world) can have positive consequences.
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    maloneth YTA. Take everything you said out of the equation. Put all that to the side for now. And just focus on this next part.
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    Look at the power dynamic you've instilled between your daughter and son. What negatives could possibly result from this? Tons. Jealousy. Resentment. Maybe even violence.
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    What positives could possibly result from this? I'm genuinely asking, because I don't know.

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