28-year-old mother of 5 accuses her 19-year-old sister of copying her because she chose the same college major that she did before she dropped out: 'She asked if I thought I was better than her because I’m taking her spot'

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May 27, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

A lot of people go to college in search of an education, and come out with something else. Whether that be a couple of thousand dollars in debt, an MRS degree, or a friend named Eduardo who will co-found The Facebook with you, there's a lot more to attending university than simply acquiring a degree. The extraneous parts of college are often a big part of the appeal. There are girls who will go to the University of Alabama to rush a sorority, not get into the sorority they desired, and simply transfer to another school where the sorority scene is not so competitive. There are guys who will go to college for the sole purpose of partying as much as they can and working as little as possible. There's a reason "the college experience" is so appealing to young people, but not all extracurricular endeavors are worthwhile in the long run. 

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  • The woman in this story got in and out of college quickly. She met her much older boyfriend at a college party, and has since mothered 5 of his children. When her younger sister decided to go down the same path that she began educationally, she was strangely offended by it.

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    AITA for telling my sister it’s not my fault she became a mom instead of going to college?

    I'm always caught in the crossfire with my sister, basically my family use me as a punching bag.a Op(19F)
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    My sister(28F) had a good thing going, after high she went to college for sale and finance to do real estate. She was 17 when she got into college because she graduated early. She got in the
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    mix with her boyfriend, At that time her boyfriend was 36 and they met because he was at a college party and he got to her. no one could tell her anything about him.
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    It was crazy because she was deep in love with him, our parents did not approve of this relationship because they thought it would ruin her future. She ghosted everyone, no one knew that she dropped out until two weeks later. She wasn't
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    leaving her boyfriend and no one could stop, she only dropped out because he wanted her to and I guess made her believe college wasn't good enough. My sister is very gullible and believes anything if you sound sincere about it. She stopped calling everyone, if we would call them her phone would go right to voicemail.
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    Anyways she has 5 kids with her husband now, still going strong, recently had her baby on Mother's Day. I barely talk to her, off and on. She used to be fun to be around but she finds fun in being with her kids and that's
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    good, she cooks all day, cleans, wash clothes, lost many friends. Now that I'm in college I study finance as well, my sister didn't know because she never cared to ask because she has her own family now.
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    I was surprised to get a call from her, we ended up having a deep conversation. That's why she finally asked what I was doing in college, I told her I was doing finances for real estate and I guess something just clicked. She
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    asked why was I copying her, it was so random for her to ask. I told her I wasn't copying her, but she threw multiple questions at me, she then asked if I thought I was better than her because I'm taking her spot.
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    It was weird because she was going crazy, I was trying to calm down the situation, but she added it. She was projecting on me, saying that I'm never going to be in her spot. I told her it wasn't my fault. She became a
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    mom and didn't finish college, I made her cry. She called our mom, my mom told me what an a I was being and of course I second guessed myself so I might be wrong.
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    Richie_Boomstick A 28 year old woman with 5 kids says, "Why are you copying me?" That says it all for me. You are NTA.
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    mongoosedog12 When I got to that part I said in my head "well she doesn't have 5 kids and hasn't dropped out of college, so not really copying you now is she" 5 kids by 28 is nasty work, if she's still with that 36yr old I can see how that happened. Keep her
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    barefoot and pregnant, reliant on you and beat down. Sad state of affairs but college age her wouldn't listen. But 28yr old her hearing a lot now huh
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    PsychologicalGain757 Honestly if her parents actually cared, they should've brought this guy up on charges. This one's an ESH for me because she was a minor in a relationship with an adult that sounds like he was emotionally ab ive and OP honestly does sound like she looks down on her. And now sis is stuck in a bad situation and nobody protected her. As
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    far as I'm concerned OP's parents aren't much better than the Hollywood parents who didn't protect their kids. Who lets their teenager who is underage go away to college with no supervision? Neglectful parents, that's who. Obviously sis said something crappy too, hence the verdict.
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    Clarita Shine yeah she's beefing with a version of herself that no longer exist and you just caught a stray
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    WhyDrinkKoolaid Obviously NTA You certainly don't have to stay and listen to that. Perhaps disengaging a bit earlier in the conversation.
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    Crafty_Special_7052 NTA deep down she probably regrets dropping out of college and why she's basically attacking you now knowing you are majoring in what she was supposed to. Btw is her husband the boyfriend she dropped out of school for??
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    Brilliant_Bowl_4007 OP Yes, that's the boyfriend (husband now)
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    late2reddit19 NTA. Your sister sounds unhappy and regretful that she did not finish college. She has no right taking her poor life decisions out on you. Don't apologize because she's going to keep doing this. If you graduate and get a good paying job, she'll be jealous. She'll be livid if you manage to get married and have a family on top of having a great career. She'll accuse you of copying her for daring to get married and have children. Your sister needs therapy.
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    anikaevanz Exactly. That resentment isn't going anywhere unless she works through it herself. OP setting boundaries now might save them both from years of guilt tripping and emotional whiplash...
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