20-year-old cancels vacation after 21-year-old "bestie" assumes she'll pay for all the expenses herself: 'This trip was her idea!'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
May 29, 2025 8:00 AM EDT

You know what they say happens when you assume…

These so-called "best friends," aged 20 and 21, were planning a vacation together and had previously agreed to split the cost of the hotel 50/50. The 20-year-old, who shared this story online, naturally assumed that the rest of the expenses would be split accordingly, from flights to activities to transit. Of course, there could be exceptions. If one person wants to treat the other to dinner or to drinks at some point during the trip, that would be more than acceptable. However, to assume that one person would take care of all of those aforementioned expenses without having a transparent conversation about it in advance does not bode well for a harmonious vacation. That's exactly what happened when the author learned that her 21-year-old "bestie" casually explained that she wouldn't be contributing any more money to their trip. 

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  • It's funny that the older friend was the one who assumed that the younger would contribute more money. Of course, their age difference is essentially negligible, which is why the assumption should have been that everything would be split evenly. Some people—and the 21-year-old friend seems to be one of them—like to enjoy all the privileges of a vacation without the responsibilities of budgeting and planning. 

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    I (20f) have a close friend (21f) who has been asking me for months to go to LA for a fun summer trip. Now, we live around 8 hours away so I kinda just assumed we would fly and the other day when she brought it up
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    I told her we should probably book our flights soon. To that she looked really confused and told me how she couldn't afford plane tickets and she wanted to drive.
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    I was sorta confused because if she can't afford a $150 plane ticket how was she planning to pay for the activities and places SHE wants to go (Nobu, jetskiing, shopping, clubs etc) which all add up quickkk. She also doesn't
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    have her license which means I would have to do all the driving which would be hard as I have bad back issues and driving for so long would be painful.
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    She kinda just laughed and said since I have money she assumed I would pay for a majority of her expenses. I was shocked
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    because why would she assume I would pay for her expenses without even asking? I have no problem covering something like drinks or ice cream but to assume I would pay for everything by myself except for the hotel? (we had previously agreed to split the hotel 50/50)
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    I told her that this trip was her idea and she shouldn't have asked me to go if she was expecting me to pay for everything. She's upset and complaining about how it's unfair since I can afford to pay for her, AITA?
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    Responsible-Start... . 6h ago NTA Of course this "friend" is upset. She was dreaming of having a vacation on your dime. You maturely began talking about plans and checking expectations and on discovering her expectations squashed the idea.
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    Good for you! Please don't let her pouting and toxic complaining bother you. True friends would never have expected you to pay for them at all.
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    Users are looking to take the easy Road by having other people pay for them. This is not a true friend.
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    shroomie19 • 6h ago I've known people like this. She isn't your friend. NTA.
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    . Endsln-ing 6h ago NTA. At least she showed her true colours. In your shoes, I'd tell a "friend" like this that I was hurt by the assumption and felt used. I'd need some time to think about things, and to give some space. You'll reach out when you're ready to discuss again.
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    Hatstand82 · 6h ago • You paying for pretty much everything was EXACTLY why she asked you to go. She's not your friend - she thinks you're an ATM.
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    HalloweenHollow 6h ago "She kinda just laughed and said since I have money she assumed I would pay for a majority of her expenses." ►►►Red flag alert. Absolutely no. This is super out-of-line.
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    If you still want to go on the trip, you can try to find common ground while reminding her that details need to be agreed upon. This way, you can find a plan that suits you both. That said, you're well within your right to forego the trip. Definitely NTA.
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    RazzmatazzOk2129 6h ago . NTA And time to drop this so called friendship. She has shown you how she sees you. The wallet to pay for her fun. If you aren't paying, she doesn't see much use in you.
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    Top-Spite-1288 · 6h ago Wow!... Entitlement is strong in your friend! NTA Friend wants to go to places, expects OP to drive, use her car, foot the bills -
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    because friend wants to do things! She's not a friend, she's a user. She did not even ask you to borrow (!) her money, she just expected you to caugh up the money. Sorry to say: that is not a friend! Cut her loose!
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