Entitled mom demands that sister-in-law stop eating icecream in front of her daughter, she refuses to give up nightly ritual in her own home: "I deserve my little treats"

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    AITA for eating ice cream every night just like I always do and not stopping just bc my SIL doesn't want my niece to see it?

    "Do you seriously NEED to eat ice cream every single day?
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    Most nights after dinner, I eat a small ice cream cone. It's literally the little "joy mini cups" with a teeny scoop of ice cream. Maybe a big scoop if I'm
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    having a rough day but that's kinda rare. I don't drink alcol or smoke w d or do anything "fun" so this is my one fun thing I do for myself.
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    My brother and his wife and daughter are staying with me for a few weeks, they'll be gone by June 15. I'm happy to have them here. Usually we'll eat dinner
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    together and go our separate ways for the evening. They watch a lot of TV so they're usually all in the living room watching.
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    I've been eating my lil cone, but my sister in law approached me and asked me if I could stop. She said that my niece is starting to ask why she doesn't
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    get to have ice cream and that obviously she was lied to by my sister in law when she told her ice cream is a sometimes food, haha.
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    I said that I wasn't going to stop but I could wait until she was in bed. I figured that was a good compromise and I do get that she's trying to raise
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    her little girl to have a healthy relationship with food. But waiting until she was in bed didn't work because she came into the kitchen multiple times to ask me for some.
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    My SIL was definitely a little incredulous over it and kept saying "Really? Do you seriously NEED to eat ice cream every single day?" or stuff like it. I said no, but she also doesn't need to drink a glass of wine
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    every day either. She didn't like this and sighed a bunch and has been visibly annoyed with me since then. My brother asked me if I could stop just to avoid the drama, but I said I deserve my little treats. AITA?
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    icerguy0211 NTA. I cannot stand parents like this. The world is not going to cater to your child. If they bend every little thing because they don't want to deal with their child asking for stuff, how is your niece ever going to learn to accept "no". Kid needs to learn sometimes people have things they can't have especially adults. Keep eating your ice cream, ignore your sister
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    The_Death_Flower Especially when it's not hard to explain that other houses have different rules, and that adult bodies are different from children bodies, so adults can eat and drink different things than children can
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    FaithlessnessFlat 514 I don't remember a single time when I was a kid that another kid struggled to understand that other people have different rules. I'm sure there's an age where you have to learn that, but
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    I don't have clear memories of it. I grew up in a strict household - no pop, VERY minimal fast/ junk food, coulsn't take the Lord's name in vain, etc. I don't remember a time when that was confusing. The difficulty with this always seems to come from parents who don't want to parent.
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    Lackluster_honk Exactly! This is such a prime example of a person trying to avoid the actual work of parenting letting the kid experience things like disappointment, frustration, etc. and helping. them learn to take care of themselves when something doesn't work how they want it to. Not trying to keep things from ever disappointing or frustrating the kid.
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    MY LIFE MY RULES
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    ShopGirl3424 I'm a mom and I can spot these kids a mile away. The number of parents who seem to believe "gentle" parenting means a kid never hears the word "no" is astounding. Different households/ family/people have different rules/standards/ privileges. It's so simple, but such a critical lesson for our kids.
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    Mogura-De-Gifdu Exactly. I take my kids often to restaurants. We bring coloured pencils and easy to play card games and coloured stickers and all that stuff to keep them occupied. No we can't give them our phones, it's forbidden.
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    Then one time we were in a restaurant with friends. Their daughter was no sooner sat down that she asked, in fact really demanded, to play. with her father's phone. The father gave it to her.
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    Our kids looked at us accusingly: but we thought it was forbidden! Well. Yes. It's forbidden. By us.
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    That day we let them look at the phone, not much of a choice (netflix, without the sound, but still, arg!). Sure we didn't hear them that day. But no, it was exceptional because we were with other kids
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    you age, it doesn't mean it's okay at other times. So yeah, it was tiring for some time as they tried to push this limit once they saw others didn't have the same. But it's us parents' job to stay firm.
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    RivSilver For real. My mom managed to explain this to me and my brothers with "yes, we have soda in the house because dad drinks it every day and i don't allow you to have it except occasionally. That's
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    because he is an adult and I'm not his parent, but I am your parent and it's not good for you to have often as a kid. When you're an adult you can make your own choices about it like your dad and i do."
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    And we accepted it. And we weren't even in someone else's house! That makes it even easier. "Some families do things differently and that's ok, but I'm doing my best to help you learn and in our family kids don't have ice cream every day"
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    NTA Turtle DrowningInTea Your home your routine your body your little treat She created this situation believe it or not
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    You are not harming her parenting or the child by eating food. Explaining moderation and what that looks like is the parents job and she clearly didn't explain it in a way that aligns with many people's reality.
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    Sufficient-Lie1406 Seriously, she's got bigger problems as a parent if she can't explain to her child why some people might get treats and she doesn't. Unfortunately your SIL doesn't even understand the basic rule that a guest in someone's house doesn't get to tell the host what to do.
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    l_a_p304 The audacity needed to try to dictate what someone eats in their own home, where she is a guest, is astounding. Obviously NTA. Those scoops of ice cream better be massive while she's there.

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