'I just miss him so much but I don’t want to stress him': Master's student cat lover separated from cat for years due to school and life's chaos, finally reunites with her senior soulcat

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Sarah Brown • Writer and Editor
Jun 3, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

This devoted pawrent is seriously feline the ache of missing her soulmate cat, who's been living with her parents for the past few years. After spending his early years as an indoor apartment kitty curled up with her, life's chaos whiskered them apart. Now, after years of uncertainty and couch-surfing, she's finally settled with a loving partner, a spacious two-floor apartment, and dreams of reuniting with her beloved boy.

The tricky bit? Her cat's been half-outdoor at her parents' place (despite not really loving the outdoors or the other pets), and the idea of whisking him away, especially without her father's support, feels stressful. Still, it's clear the bond hasn't faded. During a rare visit, her cat instantly melted into her arms. Talk about purrfect love.

Now she's wondering: should she ask her mom to bring him for a slow, snuggly trial stay? She wants to do right by her feline bestie, but also can't ignore the growing urge to bring him home, once and fur all.

Honestly? This sounds like a reunion meant to be. He chose her once. With care, patience, and treats, he'll likely choose her again.

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    'I don't want to just come snatch him away'
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    I need advice. My cat who is the absolute love of my life, has been living with my parents for a few years.
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    The thing is, he's about 8 years old now. The first four years of his life he lived with me, then after uni I went back to live with my parents. I was there with him for about two years, I traveled a little in the middle and he'd always look for me, and cried when I'd leave.
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    When I left for my masters I had to leave him back home because life was so uncertain. I didn't have a house to move to and ended up couch surfing for months.
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    I don't have an easy relationship with my father so I've only been back once when they weren't home and my cat immediately melted into me..
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    I'm settled now, have a partner who is lovely and has talked about taking him to come live with us.. and I want that so badly. The thing is, he lived as an apartment cat for the four years with me and then lived partly outside with my parents, he doesn't love the outdoors, other people or my parent's other cats.
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    I have a decently large apartment, two floors, enough space for him to relax, and a balcony and we have a lot of - nature close by so he can come on walks with us.
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    I don't feel comfortable being in the house with my father but I don't want to just come him away. I don't want to stress him, maybe getting my mom to bring him over and stay with us for a few days to adjust? I need some advice, I just miss him so much but I don't want to stress him.
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    Donut-Leather He may be initially stressed. out, but after a few hours in the new place with you he'll adjust. :) bring him home to you!!!
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    flowercam The cat will be fine. You are there and that's what matters. I think I moved about 8 times with my first cat. Different cities, different roommates. As long as there is a food bowl and a litter box and some love they are very adaptable.
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  • If he’s got food, love, and a cozy spot to nap, he’ll adjust just fine. Cats care most about comfort and connection and it sounds like you’ve got plenty of both!

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    Significant_Flan8... Well, I for one am on board with rounding up a posse to sneak into your old house to do an actual kidnapping of your baby kitty. Wait shall I call it cat-napping, or is it kitten-napping?? If your dad is not nice to you then he probably doesn't deserve w a cat anyway so really it's for the good of society.
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    Your kitty is not at all too old to be moving to a new place! Especially when he is going to be moving in with his favourite person in the world!! I bet he has been waiting for years for you to come and take him to his forever home with you!! Now he will finally get to be with you forever and ever.
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    Also, please do not take him on walks in nature with you like you mentioned. Even when a cat is on a leash and/or harness trained, there are a lot of ways that they can get away from you! (get scared and bolt) faster than you can blink.
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    You have a balcony at this place, make it into a catio for him to enjoy outside time in a safe space. I turned my entire balcony into a catio so mine had lots of room to roam around, but also they were always supervised when they were out there to avoid any potential risks.
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  • A catio sounds like the purrfect solution! Safe outdoor vibes without the stress. He can lounge, sniff the breeze, and soak up sunshine while still feeling secure and close to you.

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    Impressive Train... Get your cat He will be okay after a while. Enjoy your time together.
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    Stumpside440 if he is bonded to you he would rather be with you. i've moved my cats so many times. don't leave him there. it's not like that w/ them. they want to go w/ who they are bonded to. i went through this when i was young, too. when i came back he always chose me.
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    i've literally driven my cats cross country. he'll be fine. one week to adjust and come out from under the bed and then it's over. if he bonded to you when he was younger and still melts into you, go and rescue him. go now
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    LotusGrowsFrom... Being with their favorite person is more important than having to be moved. Your cat needs you!
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  • No doubt he’d be happiest with his favorite human nearby. Cats really thrive on that special bond. Being together would bring him comfort and joy, making the transition much easier for both of you.

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    ShortPreference7... If youre truly planning on keeping him with you this time... I'd take him. He obviously prefers your presence and once he feels comfy with you in a new space... I think he'll be more than okay. Maybe do it on a day where your home the first day or two. Help the transition.
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    trashcanman1987 He will be fine, he loves you so will adjust. Go get your cat
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