Man refuses to travel across the country to meet his newborn nephew after years of his family's mistreatment toward his wife: ‘Unless everything changes, I’m not going to waste my money’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jun 8, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

We can only hope that our in-laws love us for who we are, without all the falsities, the niceties, and everything in between. We deserve to be accepted by our partner's family with love, especially if we've never given them a surefire reason to dislike us in the first place. If you have a feeling that your in-laws are simply tolerating you, vocalize that to your partner. If they are the right ones for you, they will attempt to nip that ill behavior in the bud before it starts to affect your mental health. 

The husband in this next story does exactly that after years of his family excluding and shaming his wife. He explains that his family is upset she dragged him to the West Coast, but that's clearly a two-person decision. The family is nit-picky about everything his wife does, and goes so far as to give her no gifts or include her in anything holiday-related when they visit for the holidays. So now, the husband refuses to travel across the country to meet his new nephew coming in July. Why would he? His family suggested he come alone so they don't have to see his wife. Husband-of-the-year over here. Scroll to read.

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  • Americ "They didn't give her any gifts, excluded her from the cookie party, and I caught mom and my aunts talking about her twice."
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  • "AITA for not making the trip cross country to meet my nephew because my family are ****oles to my wife"

    Hi. My family hates my wife. They don't like that she took me away from the east coast. She was bigger when we met. She didn't
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  • go to a good school. She doesn't want kids. She's too girly then not girly enough. She can seem cold at first because she is a little reserved. And on and on and on
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  • It has been hard. I was close to my brother. But he led the charge early on because she called him out for something and he didn't like it. He's the favorite so they
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  • took his side. My little sister is the most neutral. I've tried to talk to them about it so many times but eventually just realized it wasn't going to change. I love my wife. I have no regrets.
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  • This past Christmas will be the last. They didn't give her any gifts, excluded her from the cookie party, and I caught mom and my aunts talking about her twice. I got us early flights and took her skiing.
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  • Her dad loves me. We have weekly cigar walks. Her mom drops by just for hugs. Her brothers and I have our own
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  • group chat. Her sister baked me a birthday cake. It should be this way with my family. I'm trying not to be all emo but this shhurts.
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  • My brother (the favorite) is having his first child in July. They have asked me (not us) to come meet him. I told them no. I'm sick of the bulls Unless everything •
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  • changes, I'm not going to waste my money. Mom got on the phone and told me I don't have to bring her, I should just come myself. I said no, we're married, we're a package deal.
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  • She twisted it to "Oh so she won't let you come unless she comes too?" and I told her no, I'm saying this. I'm sick of them treating her like sh. It's Jerry Springer levels
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  • of trashy. Dumb thing to say and it set her off listing all the grievances they have with her. Some of it is just stupid. She carries a water bottle wherever she goes. Yeah, mom, she's from California. We all do.
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  • Dad jumped in to back up mom and accused me of holding adult problems against an unborn child. Said that I'm really going to
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  • not be a part of my nephew's life because my wife can't get along with the rest of the family. This is what I'm stuck on. Am I wrong? I
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  • do want to be in my nephew's life and it isn't his fault. But it feels wrong to reward them because it just won't ever end.
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  • mfruitfly You are a hero. Your family hates your wife for no reason, you see how much that hurts her and how ridiculous the grievances are, and you are holding them accountable.
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  • The unborn child isn't going to be bothered by you being or not being in their lives, it is your adult family who made the choice to be terrible, and they are the ones who will suffer for it.
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  • Mute their phone calls and spend your time with decent humans. I'm so sorry that you had to make this choice, but good for you for making it and not making your wife put up with disrespect.
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  • lopodopobab You say you want to be in your nephew's life-but why? Is it because you genuinely want a relationship with him? Because you think he might need someone sane in the family? Or is it because you're mourning the idea of being part of the family you used to have, and your nephew feels like a last thread?
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  • Because let's be honest-your family has made it clear that they don't respect your marriage. You've done everything right by your wife, and they've made it a hostile environment. So if you're just trying to stay involved because you think you should,
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  • maybe it's worth letting go of that expectation. That kid isn't going to miss someone he's never met unless you're going to be in his life long-term in a healthy, stable way—and your family's not making that possible. So ask yourself: Is it him you want, or the version of your family you wish still existed?
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