New stepmother demands 17-year-old babysit her children because his father said he would if they married: 'My relationship with his wife and her kids doesn't exist really, and I know that [makes her mad] but she was his choice, not mine'

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    "AITA for telling my stepmother I didn't agree to be her summer babysitter?"

    I (17m) live with my grandparents because when my stepmother and stepsiblings moved in with my dad last year, there weren't enough bedrooms for me to still have my own room and her kids are way younger than me so I didn't want to share with her boys.
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    My decision to move out didn't make them happy but I really don't care. My dad and I argued over them moving in and dad made it clear he wanted her there because he was ready to marry her and that I didn't get a say since I wasn't paying the mortgage or bills. He also said he'd been widowed for 6 years and it was time for him to be happy again for real. Dad and I fought. about my moving out but he gave in because I told him I would be miserable and did not care if that made everyone else miserab
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    My relationship with dad suffered as a result but I can live with that. This is better than sharing the room. My relationship with his wife and her kids doesn't exist really and I know that her off but she was his choice, not mine. She can think what she likes.
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    Now we have a whole other issue because she wanted me to babysit her kids over summer break so she didn't need to pay for camps or summer care. The kids don't have a dad in their lives so she's got to figure it out for the whole summer. When she told me to babysit this summer I said no. That was in April. She figured she could convince me but she didn't. Summer break came and she's had to pay for more than a week of childcare already.
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    My dad mostly stayed out of it but he told me he was upset that I wouldn't help some of the days. He said it would be a great time to bond with the kids and get to know them and for them to get to know me. He offered to buy me a few things as a form of payment but I refused it. He told me he was disappointed in my choices about blending our families and he felt like I was doing this because I can't let go of mom and don't want to embrace the new chapter of our family. I told him that's nothing t
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    My stepmother called me again and she was going crazy about my stubbornness and claiming it was part of the deal. I told her I never agreed to be her summer babysitter and I made no deals with her or her kids. It p ed her off more. And it brought out dad saying I was being r de for no good reason. AITA?
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    xodevo nta. stand your ground - not your kids, not your problem. & enjoy your summer :)
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    No-Complaints3601 NTA. They didn't take any steps to accommodate your needs for a room without little boys in it when you are 17 years old, they can't expect you to accommodate their need for a babysitter. IDK why they are asking for favors from you when all they have done is take.
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    dropshortreaver "claiming it was part of the deal" Sounds like Father Dear has been making promises that were'nt his to make. Sold her moving in and getting married as having you as an available baby sitter. Now he cant deliver on the promise, he's trying to guilt you. Tough sh for him. ΝΤΑ

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