"My house, my rules": 30-year-old boyfriend forbids his 37-year-old girlfriend from letting her dog sleep on furniture in "his" house, so she moves out and he tries to control her and her pooch there too

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Jun 16, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

One thing a man is certainly not going to do is tell us what we're allowed to do with our doggo. The first thing we tell any person about to enter into a relationship with us is this one, simple fact: we will always choose the dog over you. Sorry, not sorry. They were our first love, they've been with us through more than you probably will, and they can sleep wherever they want to - including in our beds. If you don't like it, you know where the door is.

The girlfriend in this post really accommodated her non-dog loving boyfriend's rules - way better than we would have. He didn't like the dog on the furniture or in bed, and technically, it was his house. She followed his rules. But when she decided to move out to give herself and her doggo more freedom, the boyfriend still wanted to control what her precious pooch could and couldn't do in her house. So girl, if you won't say it, we'll say it for you, "Thank you, next."

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    'I laughed and told him I followed the rules in his house but now that he's in my home, I make the rules.'
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    I (37F) and my bf (30M) have been together for 1.5 years. We were living together until I moved out due to issues he had with my dog i.e. she barked in the house, she shed too much, tried to get on the furniture etc.
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    Since he owned his house I followed his rules which included not allowing my dog on the furniture or in the bedrooms. I wasn't happy with this since she's always slept with me but because he didn't care for dogs
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    I did the best I could to follow his rules. I ended up moving out just a fews months after moving into his house to see if it would help the relationship and cut down on the drama with my dog. (Just for clarification purposes she's a 90lbs German
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    Shepherd and is roughly 8y/o. She's typically pretty quiet and has never gotten into anything or been destructive.) Now that I have my own place she has been allowed free range of my house again and is happier than ever. The problem is that he still
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    doesn't like my dog and told me that she wasn't allowed on MY couch or MY bed if I ever wanted him to come over. An argument ensued due to me "being disrespectful and not caring about what he needs to feel comfortable." I laughed and
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  • We would have ended it right there and then. We simply couldn't live with a person who didn't accept that our dog was allowed everywhere. You have never experienced peak cuteness until you've woken up next to your doggo while they're still sleeping peacefully. It's truly one of life's simple pleasures.

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    told him I followed the rules in his house but now that he's in my home, I make the rules. He doesn't contribute anything financially to my bills or household so I don't feel like I'm in the wrong. I'm also still
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    buying groceries for both homes and do all the cooking at both. Of course I want him to be comfortable in my home and I've told him I'd compromise by putting blankets down so hair doesn't get on the bed or couch and take them off when he
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    comes over but that wasn't good enough for him. We argued more and he left saying that he wouldn't come over anymore if I still let my dog on the furniture. I shrugged and didn't say anything. So, A A for tell my bf "my house, my rules" or am I prioritizing my dog over my relationship?
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    aeroeagleAC. You two cleary aren't very compatible. Why are you holding onto this?
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    Ironyismylife28 NTA, but if you are this different in your lifestyle and choices, why do you think you are compatible?
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    Freeverse711 You're being an AH to yourself and your dog for even trying to make this relationship work. News flash, he doesn't like dogs, your dog is only 8, she's got years left. Break it off and find yourself a dog lover.
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    Dotted Unicorn A fish may love a bird but where will they build a home together?
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    A dog person and non-dog person just don't work long term. Stop buying him food and cut the cord.
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    HauntingGur4402 I stopped reading after you wrote you still buy groceries. and cook in both houses... why??? Time to get rid of him In be happy with just your dog
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    Nola_Germajun GIRL QUIT BUYING HIS GROCERIES AND COOKING HIS MEALS! He's a whole grown a man, and needs to act like it. He wants to be Big Daddy but still wants you to baby him
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    NTA you followed the rules at his house and when that didn't work, you tried to accommodate him at your home and that wasn't good enough for him. You were 100% correct- your house,
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    your rules. Why are you still together? Is the D really that good? Cuz toys have come a long way and this is not worth the hassle, and 1.5 years is not too bad for sunk
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    cost. Dogs are like children, and shouldn't be abandoned to make your man happy. The right man will love your fur baby like you do. Time to move on.
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    Legitimate_Soup_1948 NTA at the end of the day you guys are just not compatible. You're a dog person and he dislikes dogs, as long as you have one he's always going to find a problem.
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    "I'm also still buying groceries for both homes and do all the cooking at both" why are you buying his groceries???
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    Ballas333 NTA. I feel like at this point you should just admit that you chose the dog over the guy. Which is fine. But clearly you two have very incompatible ideas of what your home life should look like.
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    cassowary32 INFO Why on earth are you buying groceries for both households and cooking for both? Your boyfriend failed the pet compatibility test, why are you still dating him??
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    He's not a pet person, dump him and find and date a pet person! Preferably one who isn't a control freak and contributes his fair share to meals.
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    CatzAgainstHumanity You live in two separate houses and still aren't compatible. It might be time to cut the cord.
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    Decent-Historian-207 Seriously? Just break up. You have agency here. YTA to yourself here.
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