23-year-old woman leaves friend's birthday party after friend refuses to open the door and let her inside the house: ‘I knocked as loud as I could, but the door remained locked’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jun 20, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Sometimes friends are mean to you, it is just another way to show their love. Your closest friends are actually some of the only people who can make fun of you and get away with it, because you know they do it with love.

But how can one know where to draw the line? When does it stop being funny and become toxic?

It's not easy, realizing that the friendship you have with someone might not be healthy, and that you may be better off without them. Usually, this realization doesn't happen overnight. It could be after a few disappointing meetings, a joke that has gone too far, or perhaps you simply understand that you feel better when they are not around. Either way, everyone has had to leave a friend or two behind.

For the girl in the story below, the realization actually did happen overnight, when her friend was pulling a prank that was not funny whatsoever. When his girl arrived at her friend's house to celebrate her birthday, nobody opened the door for her. After a while, she realized she was not welcome and left. She also realized that her friend is not who she thought she was.

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    "No one let me in, so I'm going home"
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    AITA for leaving my friend's birthday party after she didn't let me in her house?

    I (F23) was invited to my friend Sasha's (F23) birthday party. It was for a Friday at 8:30 pm. We would start at her house to pregame and then go to bars. I
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    had work that day from 7 am to 7:30 pm but I really wanted to go so I rushed home, ate dinner, got ready, and drove to her place. We were texting the whole day about
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    the plans and she seemed very excited for me to join her and her friends (I am acquainted with her friends but not besties).
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    I arrived at her house at 8:30 on the dot. I hung up the phone with my boyfriend and texted her to let her know I was there. She said "ok!", so I walked up and knocked
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    on the door. I heard music and people talking inside so I knew they were there. Nobody answered. I noticed she had a ring camera so I waved in front of
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    it knowing ring notifies people's phones. Still nobody let me in. I knocked louder and texted her that I was at the door, but I wa neither let in nor texted back. ||
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    knocked even louder and started shouting "hey Sasha I'm here!" | finally hear footsteps coming to the front door, but instead of letting me in, I heard the
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    ddbolt lock click LOCKING ME OUT. I walked away from the door and called my boyfriend to tell him what was going on. I told him my
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    feelings were hurt and that I wanted to go home. He convinced me to stay and knock again, rationalizing that it was a miscommunication. I texted her again saying "ok I'm out front".
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    Sasha immediately answered "ok sounds good!" So I knocked again. No answer. I heard the music get turned down and Sasha say "guys I think she's here!" So I
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    knocked as loud as I could and said "yes I'm here! It's me!" Footsteps came towards the door, and again the dadbolt sounded and the door remained locked and the footsteps walked away.
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    At this point I had been knocking for 12 minutes. I was so upset and angry that I left and texted Sasha "so I've been knocking for over 10 minutes and no one let me in so I'm going home." She
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    immediately called me but I didn't answer because I was afraid I would say something out of anger that I would have regretted. She texted me that she
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    "looked through the peephole and did not see me". I think that's B because she literally had a ring camera. I told her that my feelings were hurt and I felt
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    unwelcomed. I did not receive an answer. AITAH for leaving? What could be the reasoning behind this?
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    O-U81-2 WT? This sounds like they thought this would be funny, but it was instead cruel. NTA
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    _JFKFC_ Sasha ain't no friend of yours
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    Broad Respond_2205 She literally didn't let you in the party what were you supposed to do? If my friend told me she was at the door and I didn't see her, I would go outside to look for them.
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    Any-Expression2246 Not a friend. Even it was supposed to be a prank. I wouldn't tolerate that sh for a second. She'd end up finding no way of communicating with me after that. Full on block.
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    Hidden Vixen21 For your own sake. Do not engage with anyone at that party again. Don't be mean. Don't defend. Don't do anything. Just keep simple one word answers. "Okay" "sure" "if you say so"
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