27-year-old daughter refuses estranged mom's demand to walk her down the aisle, mom accuses her of seeking revenge: ‘It’s about who was there for me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jun 18, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

There are plenty of moments during your wedding that you will probably never forget. The first time you see your significant other, the moment you both walk down the aisle, the look on their face as you exchange vows, and the kiss you share in front of all the people you love.

A wedding day is filled with magical moments that you will carry forever, so one of the most important things you must ensure will happen at your wedding is that all their moments will look exactly how you want them to look. Do not compromise on one single thing. This is the one day you can make demands, and everyone will follow. Do not let that go so easily.

If you want a certain song playing as you walk down the aisle, make sure it does. If you want the aisle to be decorated with your favorite flowers, all you have to do is ask.

And if you want one parent to be there by your side, and not the other, that is completely your call.

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  • When the bride in the story below told her parents she wanted her father to walk her down the aisle, and not her mother, she was not expecting backlash. As it turns out, her mother did not take the news well, despite knowing she was not the best mother leading up to that moment.

    Keep scrolling to read the full story…

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    AITA for telling my mom she can't walk me down the aisle because she wasn’t really there for me growing up?

    I (27F) am getting married later this year. I was raised mostly by my dad and stepmom after my parents divorced when I was 6. My mom moved to another state
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    shortly after and I'd only see her during holidays, sometimes not even then. She missed birthdays, school plays, even my graduation.
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    It was never a hostile relationship, just... distant. She always said she loved me, but her actions didn't reflect that. My dad and stepmom were the ones who showed up,
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    helped with homework, took me to doctor's appointments, and basically raised me. So, when it came to planning the wedding, I asked my dad
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    to walk me down the aisle. My mom assumed she would be the one since I'm her only child and we've been talking more lately. When I told her I'd already asked my dad, she
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    got really upset and said I was punishing her for the past. I said it's not about revenge, it's about who was actually there for me.
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    Now some family members are saying I'm being cold and should let her walk with me too as a gesture of healing.
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    But I feel like that would just be for appearances, and not something I actually want. AITA?
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    SnuggleSkittz NTA. Weddings aren't about making other people feel better about their choices - they're about celebrating th people who supported you
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    and helped you become who you are. Your mom had years to show up. Your dad did. You're not punishing her; you're honoring the person who earned that spot.
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    Also, "it's not about revenge, it's a boundary" is such a powerful line. You're handling this with way more grace than most people would.
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    MimiDreamcatch4 OP Thank you your insight really helps
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    Comfortable-Bug1737 Why would your mum assume she would do that when it's normally a male role?
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    Euphoric-Phone8447 She's not being punished— you're just not rewriting history for the sake of her comfort. NTA.
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    Zanke95 Nta, the role to walk you down the aisle is for the one that has been there for you, not the one who abandoned you. It doesn't matter if your relationship is on the upswing
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    the hurt of the past doesn't disappear and your dad was there for you and the privilege to be the one to walk you down is the aisle deservedly his. Updateme
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    berto10101 NTA. 1. It's tradition for the father to do it. 2. She should not have asked, tacky! 3. It's your wedding!
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    dante0111 this is your day-you get to make the decisions. if you think it is appropriate, let her make a toast or something at the reception. but only if you want to. and only if you think she wont do something petty with it.
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