19-year-old daughter grows tired of younger stepsibling eating all the food in the house, decides to only cook meals for herself, leading mom to confront her: ‘You don't like them living here’

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Jul 5, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

Growing up with teenage BOY siblings is like growing up in the Twilight Zone. You never know what is waiting for you at any corner of the house, there is constant noise, usually coming out of the latest video game they are currently obsessed with, and the worst of all–there is never any food around the house.

Seriously, it is like living with human, highly efficient, vacuum cleaners. The minute you put something in the fridge for later, it is gone. Leftovers are an unknown concept, and the pantry is a constant mess. 

Being a girl in that environment is a lot harder than one might think. Mostly because you are always overlooked–If the boys are hungry, we must ensure they have food in their bellies, but no one ever stops to consider that the young girl might be hungry too.

That is currently what the 19-year-old daughter is dealing with in her mom's home, ever since her mom's boyfriend and his sons have moved in. She never gets to have any of the food in the house, and she is downright tired of it.

Keep scrolling to read how she handled the situation and how her mom reacted.

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    AITA for only buying food for myself?

    I (19F) have been home from college for about a month now. I live at home with my mom, her boyfriend, my two younger sisters (both 15F), and her boyfriend's two sons (13M
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    and 12M). I didn't even know his kids were living here permanently until I got back for summer break. I don't have a problem with them personally, we barely speak.
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    The only thing is food in this house disappears constantly. It's not that my mom and her boyfriend don't buy groceries. They do. But no matter how much food is in the
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    house, it's gone in a day or two. My younger sister and "stepbrothers" I guess, eat all the time. They'll eat a full breakfast, lunch, and dinner and then still go downstairs
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    constantly throughout the day and night making snacks, extra meals, or just raiding the fridge. Like, I'm not exaggerating, sometimes they make ten different things between meals.
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    Even with leftovers, I'll come home and there's nothing left. I've asked my mom about it, and she'll say she told them to save me some, but they never do. It's happened so many
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    times that I just gave up. I started putting food aside before I leave the house, but even then, someone would eat it. So now I've started just DoorDashing my own.
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    food or cooking my own food and keeping it in my mini fridge from college. I stock it with groceries I buy with my own money and just cook for
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    myself when I need to eat. I don't touch the shared food anymore, and I don't ask anyone to share mine. When my mom and her boyfriend are at work, and the
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    fridge is empty and my siblings are hungry because they ate all the food in two days, I don't bat an eye because its not my fault or responsibility. The other day, my mom made a
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    comment about how I "only think about myself" and I should "think about the house as a whole." My sisters are playing a part in this, but majority of it is on her
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    boyfriend's kids. Before I left for college and they didn't live here, food would last. I told that to my mom and she's like "they're still growing" and "you're just being dramatic
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    because you don't like them living here". That's not the case at all. I get that maybe I'm wrong for door dashing or cooking food while they're hungry, but I'm also tired of
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    being hungry and stressed in my own home. They don't think about me while they're eating my leftovers. AITA?
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    Calm_Initial Your mom isn't thinking about the house as a whole if she's not insuring everyone had food every day
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    Primary-Delivery737 No, that is ridiculous. Interesting, you were not told about the boyfriend's kids living there.
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    UteLawyer NTA. It's true that teenagers, especially teenage boys, need to eat just an unbelievable amount of food. But feeding your step-brothers is not your responsibility. Your parents need to buy more food.
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    auroradelaunay NTA. Teenagers that age, especially boys but girls too depending on how active they are, have bottomless pits for stomachs. While your mom's comment that they are still
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    growing is valid, it is not your responsibility to feed them. It's hers or their dad's. You started keeping food to yourself because there was never anything for you. What else did they expect you to do? Your money, your food.
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    Punkrockpm NTA - how hard is it for someone to make you a plate and put it away so you can have dinner? Ugh, I had this happen to me so much. It's so ride and
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    makes you feel like you are completely worth nothing. The solution was to get my own food. I like the suggestion of your own min-fridge, but be prepared for the blowback of why you aren't "sharing".
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