Woman catches mother-in-law going through her bank statements, she refuses to let her babysit 5-month-old grandchild in return: "My own mother would never invade our privacy"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 4, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. In the digital age, privacy isn't something that's a given. You go on an innocent date with someone, and boom --  your texts together have become viral, you're the laughing stock of the town, and suddenly everyone knows what you wore that night and what you ordered at the restaurant. Privacy is almost nonexistent these days. I remember many years ago I was dating a guy who was a lot more into social media than I was. We made some food together for dinner one night, and the next day at work a coworker asked me "how were your noodles last night?" I was shocked and bewildered. "Excuse me?" I asked with hesitation. I guess my boyfriend had uploaded a bunch of photos of our meal together. 
 

For a lot of people, they would see this gesture as one of love, or appreciation, and even a bit of bragging about being in a relationship. But for someone like me, it was jarring. I felt exposed, exploited even. I didn't want other people knowing what I was doing in my off time, in intimate spaces with my partner or anyone else, hence not being involved with social media. We managed to work it out, but privacy is a big thing, and boundaries become essential when they're crossed. Read the full story for all the details.

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    AITAH for not allowing my MIL to babysit at my house because she goes through my stuff?

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    I came home from work last week to find some of my clothes on the couch. When I asked what was happening her exact response
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    was "I was going through your closet and found some great options for a date night I have this week". I have noticed our mail is sometimes opened,
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    specially from banks. We both have asked her to not touch our private things. Baby is 5months old and although we have paid 5x
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    week daycare she asks to watch him once a week. Now I have finally put my foot down and said that if she wants to watch him, it
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    has to be in her house. She is so mad at me and apparently I am entitled and don't appreciate how much she is helping us when she babysits. I am at a loss for words.
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    She says she sees me as a daughter and that's why she feels free to do that kind of stuff. We don't have that kind of
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    relationship, it's just her trying to justify her actions. My own mother would never behave like that and invade our privacy.
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    ForwardPlenty • 11h ago NTA. If she can't be trusted to follow normal social mores, then she can't be trusted to watch your child,
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    period. Not at your house not at her house. Let her know that you will no longer be needing her services, and it is because you don't trust her.
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    Stoic Sir 11h ago Change your locks after getting your key back.
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    Don't tell her you did this and no she should never be in your house unsupervised - ever.
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    The rifling through your closet and taking your clothing is theft.
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    She's absolutely disgusting - eeewwww NTA
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    Tdluxon 11h ago NTA Going through your stuff without your permission is NOT acceptable. It's not OK
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    to do it without asking and even worse if you've specifically asked her and she did it again anyway.
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    Who cares if she sees you as a daughter? Even if you were her daughter that is still out of line!
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    Kooky-Situation3... • 11h ago NTA Yeah this screams of crossing all kinds of lines, this is only going to get worse, and you can not be
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    only one to get this through to her. You, your husband, his father, even siblings need to step in, your MIL does not
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    see any of this as wrong, she needs to be told from several points of view what she is doing is violating all kinds of privacy.
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    Your child's life will be invaded, if not already, you need to settle boundaries now before she creates her own.
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