16-year-old girl feels grandmother favors other grandkids, mother refuses to let grandmother see her: "She won't be coming back there next summer"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 5, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Some people grow up close to their grandparents, almost like they had a second pair of parents leading them along the path of life, teaching them things, providing insights that they always wondered about. I have so many friends who have a really special bond with their grandmother's. It's as if the nice gene skipped a generation when your mom raised you. At least these women have their grandmother's to keep them company in times of trouble. 
 

If one feels as though their grandmother, mother, or other family member is not treating them well, then it's a bigger problem than it seems. These deep, feminine insights from our relatives have lasting effects in our lives. Not having that available has to come as a discomfort. 
 

In the story below, the protagonist is a woman whose mother has several grandchildren, but she has some obvious favorites. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITAH for telling my mom that my daughter doesn't have to go to her house for the summer.

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    Me (37) and my daughter (16) loves her grandma and loves to visit. But each time she visits my mom makes her go to church. I'm
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    not against it or anything it's just my daughter doesn't wish to go but my mother just forces her to go and starts crying when she doesn't want to go. My daughter
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    she only see my mom for the summer for a month. She showers her with gifts in that time frame she's there. My daughter never really asks for things and is
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    very quiet there. So when she does ask for things my mom buys them. My mom lives in a different state with my sister (45) and her 3 kids. They don't live in the same
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    house but close by. My mom spoils my sisters kids rotten. Always taking them on a vacation right as school starts so the miss the first week. But never takes my
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    daughter to do those things. And every time my daughter wants to go to the mall or shopping my mom just says no or I don't feel
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    like doing that. Bur when it comes to my sister's kids she's all ohr yeah come on. I've always noticed it after my daughter leaves my mom's house my mom takes my
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    sisters kids shopping. So when my daughter feels sad that her grandma doesn't love her as much. My mom will call me saying "your daughter doesn't
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    wat enough what do you feed her. She won't eat anything here." My daughter is exteamly picky and doesn't like alot of things. My daughter also doesn't like eating
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    at places she's never been. My mom took my daughter to a restaurant that's practically all fish and sea food after my faughter saod she didnt like any of it and
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    the menu had 2 things not fish related. My mom finds restaurants she likes and you can only go there whe she's with you eating. Me and my Fiance (41) are
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    pretty sure our daughter is has au sm or is on the spectrum and pretty sure she had adhd like her dad they both have alot of the signs. I haven't got my daughter
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    tested for them but we're pretty sure. She has a hard time focusing anf hate crowds loud noises lights and sounds. My mom just waves them off when
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    she gets over whelmed. So when my daughter got home she started crying because her grandma just practically didn't care about anything and when
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    she didn't eat she just go told well it's your fault you don't like anything. So when my mom called asking when she would see her granddaughter again I told
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    her "She won't being coming back their next summer because you don't listen to her when she trys to tell you what she doesn't like. And when you take you other
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    grandchildren on trips to the beach and stuff and not her. You don't even have any pictures of her the ones you do have are group photos." Now my mom
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    isn't talking to me and my step dad is calling em telling me she's crying and being upset that I'm not letting her see her grandbaby.
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    Even has my sister calling me saying I was being a b to our mom and I should have said that so am I the ah le?
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    Update: My mom is crying to all her friends how I'm not letting her see her granddaughter when she tried forcing her places when she's sick. My daughter had
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    gotten sock after they went to go watch some baseball game for a family friend. She had gotten sick and had threw up and wanted to stay in bed and rest. It had happen to be a Sunday when my mother goes to church. My
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    daughter had told them she wasn't feeling good that morning so they had left her home to rest. They spend 5 hours at church from 9am-1pm So when they go home the took a nap and so did my daughter around 3pm they go
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    back to church and she told them she had thrown up. Seeing as she is 16 she felt she didn't need to tell them and wake them up and so she didn't tell them till they woke up. My mother then complained that she didn't want
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    to go to church and was lieing. My daughter felt bad but in all honesty didn't feel good and stayed home. When they got home my daughter happen to be in the bedroom by the living.
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    room and heard me mother call a friend and complain about kids these days and how nobody goes to church and how it's wrong for people to date the same gender and make fun of how the dress like a man wearing a crop top or
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    somthing. My daughter doesn't like when her grandma talks like that and trys not to listen. My mom also stereotypes no offense black people. Well be talking about leaving something in a car and someone who is black happens to look at us she'll go.
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    Oh I need to go grab it so they don't steal it. I myself don't force my daughter not to go to church sometimes she goes with her friends on out home town to their church. My mom's friends are now calling me and telling me that "I'm a bad mother and how
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    I'm focing my child not to go to church and all of that stuff. My daughter should be able to see her grandmother and all of this." | don't want yo be that daughter to my mother and stuff but she keeps forcing things on my
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    daughter. Like making her eat left overs and stuff of food she doesn't like. I do the same when I knoe she likes the food but my mom is forcing her to eat the things she doesn't like.
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