Woman refuses to pay for nieces and nephews on family vacation to cottage, the other family members accuse her of being stingy: "It's not fair to the couples without kids"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 17, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

Summer: the time for vacations, relaxation, and traveling to where we want to go. Basically everyone I know right now is traveling somewhere, either as a friend duo, as a group, or even solo travel to Rome, Athens, or somewhere else. Traveling solo is so different from traveling with others. I actually prefer solo travel. I don't need to feel tired of someone, I don't need to go on their schedule, and I don't need to feel annoyed if they want to do something I don't want to do. It's all about compromise when you vacation with someone else. 
 

Vacationing with family is a different story. You might have other expectations of payment, finances, or what you do every day. For some people, it could be easier to say no to family than it is to say no friends. In the story below, the protagonist goes on a vacation every summer with her family. Because some of the members have children and some don't, she doesn't think they should all pay the same. 

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    AITH for not wanting to pay for my niece/nephews on family vacation?

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    We take a family vacation every year to a cottage for 1 week. There are 9 adults (4 couples, 1 single) who attend. The cottage has 5 bedrooms so everyone
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  • The couples with children don't want to pay more than the couples without children. What do you think? Comment below what you would do in this situation. Would you pay more for having kids, or expect your relatives to pay more? 

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    does usually get a bed to sleep on, just may have to share a bedroom. We've been renting it for a long time and get a good deal on it but the last couple
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    years it's been different because of the kids, but would like to continue to do this.
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    Two of the couples have no young children The single has no kids. 1 couple has 2 kids between ages 5-8 1 couple has 2 kids between ages 1-3
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    Every year we go, everyone is expected to pay the same amount for the cottage & food. They only split between the 9 adults, and don't include the kids.
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    While I agree, children under the age of 2 are "free" the 3 other kids do eat/take up as much or more space & have specific foods they want.
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    We tried to voice our opinion that it's not fair to the couples without kids to pay the same amount as a family of four, but it was not
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    received well at all. We are not saying we need to pay significantly less, but to pay equal amounts for the stay & food seemed like a lot to us?
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    Are we crazy for not wanting to pay the same price as a family of four?
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    Melophile_27 • 10h ago If you voice your feelings and are ignored, you're also not obligated to continue to do these trips. I'm a mother and I'd never expect to pay
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    the same as someone without kids. They're 110% taking advantage and being crappy people.
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    celticmusebooks • 9h ago Are the kids staying in their parents' rooms? If so I can see not charging extra accomodations charges--
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    though does the person getting the single room pay more for getting a private room?
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    We've always split "by the room" for the lodgings and split food based on number of people (counting 2 kids as one adult) and splitting
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    out the cost of a. ol and dividing it among the "drinkers" as we have several non drinkers in out crowd.
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    NTA for not wanting to subsidize your niblings vacation.
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    Dazzling Potion ⚫ 10h ago Tell the two couples that have 2 kids each that they need to book their own accommodation and split it. NTA
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    . b... 10h ago Edited 10h ago Info do you have to book a - bigger place to accommodate the kids, or
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    do you book the same accommodation in size and cost as you would without the kids?
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    If you do not need to pay more to accommodate for extra space and the kids simply stay with the parents' room, then there is no
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    reason to have them pay more for the space. If you do need a larger place, they the extra cost should be on the parents.
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