Entitled mom expects friend to babysit her kids during a birthday party, friend leaves after an hour of watching the kids alone: ‘I didn't go there to babysit’

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    AIO for leaving my friend's party after they used me as a babysitter without telling me?

    Saturday was my friend Claudia's birthday party. She invited me weeks in advance, and I brought wine, snacks, and a gift.
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    Everything was going well... until her sister arrived with her two young children (ages 4 and 6), and without saying
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    anything, left them in my care "because you're good with kids." I didn't go there to babysit; I went there to socialize and relax.
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    After an hour of chasing them around the yard, keeping them from getting into the pool, and wiping soda off the lounge chair, I
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    got fed up and left without saying goodbye. Claudia texted me the next day saying that "I felt really
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    bad" for leaving her party and that her sister felt "judged."
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    Was I really a bad friend for not wanting to stay at a party to babysit someone else's kids? I just wanted to have a good time...
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    RadioSupply "Sorry, Claudia, I came to the party as a guest because you invited me. I was not dressed or prepared or paid to babysit,
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    which is what your sister assumed I would do. If she feels judged, that's her projecting because she knows what she did was entitled and
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    disrespectful. My problem is not with you, but I would appreciate it if you could understand my point of view.
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    tjones695 Not overreacting. You are not the children's mother and should not have been left to care for them entirely. It would be fine if you wanted to for a
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    period of time but the mother. needs to know they are her responsibility at all times. If they couldn't respect that, you had every right to leave!
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    Fresh_Caramel8148 No, of course not. And what I'd say "I was surprised to be expected to watch her kids. There was no judgement - but
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    it wasn't what I was at your party to do. You gave me no heads up and I wasn't interested in watching her kids. So, yes, I left."
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    scotti30 Absolutely NOR. They are not your kids, you weren't asked to babysit. They aren't your responsibility and tbh the sister SHOULD feel judged because that's really to just assume other people will watch her kids for her.
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    phunkydroid After an hour? You should have brought them back to their mother and said you weren't babysitting a lot sooner than that. NOR but learn to stand up for yourself.
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    prettyedge411 Just say no. "I'm not your babysitter. I'm going to have a drink so watch your own kids!" Boundaries aren't wrong.
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    robotfrog88 My brother and SIL would do this to me and my then teenage daughters, we call it their "tag your it" parenting.
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    We would try to avoid being tagged but then their adorable but difficult kid is heading toward the road or the pool and of course we responded.

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