Father refuses to offer financial support or inheritance to his illegitimate love child, his brother steps in to ensure the child is cared for: 'I have been personally sending money; I'll never let him hear the end of it'

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    "AITA for sending money to my brother's child against his will?"

    I'll keep this brief since it's frankly just embarrassing, but I can clarify any details if required. My brother Julian is in his 30s (1 am two years or so older). He's been married for a few years, and has two children. I am personally not married myself, and we live in different cities. The gist is that he cheated on his wife a few years ago (after he was married,
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    obviously), and has a secret child with a woman. He hushed it up by promising to send her money, but never did, and apparently she's never sued for child support. His wife was already aware about the betrayal and helped in not leaking out.
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    My brother Julian is in his 30s (I am two years or so older). He's been married for a few years, and has two children. I am personally not married myself, and we live in different cities. The gist is that he cheated on his wife a few years ago (after he was married, obviously), and has a secret child with a woman. He hushed it up by promising to send her money, but never did, and apparently she's never sued for child support. His wife was already aware about the betrayal and helped in not leakin
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    But sometime ago the other woman blew the whistle & outed the whole secret to my brother, demanding child support and inheritance for her child etc or threatened to embarrass him. He'd promised to "break off the marriage" with my sister-in-law which was how he got with her in the first place. Now he went completely ballistic etc, and in the end he agreed to pay her, including the back wages but said the child would not get any inheritance, and that she'd move out to another city again.
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    Now I had no idea about any of this, and I was both horrified and extremely disgusted. I told Julian that he absolutely has to hand over a part of his inheritance to the boy, called him a || deadbeat" and said I won't have anything to do with it. Since he refused, I have been personally sending money to the woman, and have made a point to inform everyone who'd listen that Julian's a deadbeat. I've told him that unless he hands over my nephew's inheritance and apologizes to the woman publicly tha
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    Obviously he and his wife are flipping out and calling me a traitor, etc. but I think it's the right thing to do since what I consider what he did to be unforgivable. AITA?
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hle: I believe I might be the a hole in case I should have not objected and agreed to what my brother said, but instead I flipped out and threatened to out himm, etc whihc makes me think whether I did the wrong thng, and if I should've not interfered with the matter or anything like that.
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    Novel_Fox • 2h ago . Maybe an unpopular opinion but good for you. People like Julian don't deserve your protection. He's neglecting his other child and your SIL is currently party to it. They're both
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    • Healthy_Brain5354 · 1h ago If he's paying his child support (including backdated) then he doesn't owe them anything. else. The man is still alive and could blow all his money before his "legitimate" kids see a penny in the inheritance. All you are doing by giving this woman money is inserting yourself into a situation that isn't your business and ruining your relationship with your brother and your nephews/nieces. If you're so bothered, leave the child something in your will. YTA
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    ScaryButterscotch474 2h ago NTA I love when family makes them accountable. But sadly this will ruin your relationship with your brother and you are unlikely to find out about the other illegitimate children.
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    TitzMagee_SD Love the irony of a cheater having the balls to call anyone else a traitor.
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    Smokeblind666 "I won't have anything to do with it" then proceeds to send money and make demands
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    pinkhavocxo 2h ago . Nah you're not the a h le, your brother just doesn't like being called out for being a walking L. Kid didn't ask to be born into mess, and you're doing more for him than his actual dad.

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