24-year-old deaf man ends friendship with long-term friend and his 20-year-old wife when she disrespects him consistently: “His wife texted me halfbaked apologies, which I ignored”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 27, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. People can only lie and feign themselves for so long. To be honest, you can tell when someone isn't being sincere. Regardless of their words, regardless of how apologetic they should be, it's obvious when someone doesn't mean it. I dated a guy who had an issue with that. He was truly a narcissist, and lacked any capacity for emotional empathy. It wasn't just that he was selfish, or incredulous, he really had nothing behind his eyes during apologies. Before things blew up for us, I really couldn't tell. But it doesn't take long for their colors to show. In 10 months of dating, I saw a completely different person overnight. I saw the person all my friends saw from the beginning. 

If you're someone who's had to handle the fakeness, feigning, and feebly contrived lies and manipulations of someone else, then this story may resonate with you. In the story below, a woman is treating her boyfriend's best friend with disrespect, but pretending like she isn't. 

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    AITAH Refuse to Acknowledge my Best Friend's Wife

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    I (24M) have been having issues with my best friend's (23M) wife (20F) for months now. From the first day we met she judged me. First is was, because I couldn't
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  • This woman is just plain cruel. How could she “forget" someone's physical existence just because they're quiet? It's such a bad and petty excuse. Also to play with his condition in such an evil way. This kind of condition takes patience, empathy, and a softness involved. 

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    attend their wedding. I was working remotely in a different country at the time. I apologized refusely and ordered them a pizza oven for a wedding gift.
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    These were little remarks that my girlfriend (23F) could hear in the background of our phone calls. She would write down what she heard for me since I'm deaf. My phone is capable of translating
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    audio calls into text on my screen, but it can only pick up so much and for the most part I rely on context clue. It had gotten more ridiculous when I returned to the
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    states and finally met her. She didn't realize that I was deaf. She started yelling (for the record we can tell) and ignored my girlfriend
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    who tired to explain that yelling is r de to do. It's much easier to read lips when you speak normally.
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    Any other time when we would met up (which I made sure wasn't often) she wouldn't look at me when speaking. She was relying on my girlfriend to translate which my girlfriend shouldn't
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    have to do. I'm capable of reading lips. Again, also r de to do even if I had s certified translator with me.
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    Last night at game night broke the straw for me. His wife offered to order dinner for all of us. When the driver dropped of the delivery she didn't order anything for me.
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    She apologized and said, "Well I forgot he was here since he's so quiet." I never been embarrassed to be deaf until that moment. Which is saying a lot, because I was born deaf. My girlfriend
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    shared her dinner with me. I ignored his wife for the rest of the night and we called it early. My girlfriend lied and told them she had an important meeting to prepare for. His wife (I think he
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    asked her to) had been texting me with halfbaked apologies that I have been ignoring. This caught the attention of my best friend who texted me asking why I was being mean and ignoring her.
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    That she was sorry for what happened and that she wasn't lying about me being quiet. He told me that I shouldn't get so bu hurt over a few comments. I have been ignoring him too.
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    I don't think making fun of me or the deaf/hard of hearing community is funny. AITAH for acting sensitive to this and ignoring them both? I don't want
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    to throw away our friendship, but I feel like it's for the best. My girlfriend is supportive of removing ourselves from them or for forgiving them and moving forward.
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    Edit: Correcting my mistakes. I'm not used to my best friend having a wife now instead of a girlfriend.
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    Aggressive-Key-5533 Just to be clear that slight at forgetting to get you food because you're "quiet" was intentional, no way she forgets you but remembers your girlfriend.
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    atmasabr That she was sorry for what happened No she wasn't. And even if she were, you are more important than she is. Take care of yourself first. NTA.
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    Sure_Assist 7437 Drop that friendship fast as h_l. His wife is ignorant & your friend is compliant. No way.
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    KnittingDiDi You're definitely NTA. Your friend is close, though, and his wife definitely is.
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