20-year-old refuses to show loyalty to his mom after she remarries and has kids with a financially unstable man, he almost goes no contact: “I’m considering my options”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 4, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. 2025: the year of many new social inventions. Dating apps and technology have left young men indolent and indecisive, people are growing up bereft of the ability to speak because they stare at a screen all day, and AI is taking the place of human relationships. One really interesting social change is the implementation of "no contact." No contact is a common way these days to deal with people who remotely, mildly, or unintentionally offend us. What a mature treatment to human behavior, just pretend like they don't exist anymore. Who cares if it's your mother, your father, or your brother? They said a sentence you don't agree with? Dump them forever. Just surround yourself with mirror images of the same notions, opinions, and life experiences you're used to. Then you never have to think about someone else's experience, you never have to develop yourself, and you never have to practice real empathy. Perfect society!

In the story below, the mother tries to insist to her son to go no contact with his father's siblings, his aunts and uncles. He maturely refuses, but considers dumping his own mother due to her toxic opinions. 

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    AITA for refusing to go no contact with my aunt and uncle and telling mom I'd rather go no contact with her and her family?

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    My dad cd when I (20m) was 5. My mom didn't like my dad's. siblings so she stopped me seeing them for over a year and they had to go to court and fight
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    for the right to see me through what's considered grandparents visitation but can be applied to other bio relatives who has a significant role in your life prior to
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    the death of your parent. It was shown to be in my best interest to maintain the relationship with my aunt and uncle so they won and got to see me twice a month.
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    My mom ended up remarrying and her husband's finances were a mess when they met. He also had (I think) 3 kids he was supposed to pay for and didn't
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    but also didn't see. Then him and my mom had kids together. My aunt and uncle knew about the financial issues so they would buy school supplies for me, put
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    money into my school lunch account or give me the money to do it if there was any issue with them doing it directly. They also bought me essentials when I was with them.
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    My mom told them that they couldn't see me anymore if they didn't buy for the other kids. But my aunt and uncle brought up the visitation order. My mom
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    tried to remove their visitation and even used the fact both were now married and now I had an extra aunt and uncle, but mom said they were strangers who
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    shouldn't be around me. My uncle argued that her husband was a stranger who shouldn't have been brought into my life. She said getting another dad is
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    different to an aunt or uncle's spouse. I told mom I didn't have another dad. She blamed my "disrespect" on my aunt and uncle.
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    Finances at mom's house kept getting worse and because of my aunt and uncle I never suffered as bad. Mom was ped because she wasn't allowed to keep me
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    away from them legally and couldn't afford to move to get me away from them. There were times all the food at mom's house was from a food bank or soup
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    kitchen. Clothes and other stuff were provided by charities. I never had to struggle as much.
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    My mom made a point of telling me my aunt and uncle were disgusting people for letting my half siblings do without.
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    When I turned 18 I moved in with some friends and distanced myself from my mom and I saw my aunt and uncle more. It bothered mom a lot. She told me
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    she didn't understand me having a relationship with them when they would let my half siblings starve. I told her they had no obligation to kids not related to them.
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    After a couple of years of this and me ignoring mom 99% of the time she's demanding I go no contact with my aunt and uncle so I can be her son and her kids'
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    brother. She said I should be disgusted that they wouldn't take care of my family and siblings I love. I told her I would never go no contact with my aunt and
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    uncle and I'd rather go no contact with her and her family and that I was shocked she didn't pick up on that since I haven't seen her kids in more than two years and hardly ever respond to her texts or DMs.
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    Mom said my half siblings don't deserve this and that she certainly doesn't. I told her she wrecked our stability by marrying her ahle of a husband and after that she had no right to expect
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    me to show that kind of loyalty. She started going off in my DMs so I muted her and now I'm just considering my options. AITA?
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