Boyfriend insists single mom ‘get rid’ of a cat she adopted while they were on a relationship break, so she gets rid of the real problem instead: ‘He said I’m choosing a cat over him’

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    "I told him I'd never get rid of the cat to make him feel comfortable."
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    "AITA for not getting rid of my cat?"

    I (41 F) have been dating a guy (46 M) for several years. Last year we took a break for about 6 months. In that time I did not date
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    anyone else (he did), but was working with someone who showed unreciprocated interest in me. This coworker was moving
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    to another state and asked if I wanted to adopt his cat for my kids, and I jumped at the chance. We'd always wanted a cat and it
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    just seemed like a great opportunity. I lost contact with this coworker pretty quickly after he moved. My relationship with
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    my boyfriend is really great, but recently he told me he hates the cat because it came from a guy who was using it to try and
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    with me. He said he didn't want to even feed the cat when I'm gone, as it just reminds him of this other guy. It's just a cat, and I
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    literally never think of the coworker who gave him to me. I told him I'd never get rid of the cat to make him feel comfortable.
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    Not just because of the cat, but because I won't be in a relationship where I have to prove my love by unnecessary sacrifice
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    or pain. He said I'm choosing a cat over him. Am I the ah le for thinking this whole thing is stupid and weirdly childish?
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    UPDATE: I didn't know Reddit was the friend group I needed yet here we are.
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    Yeah, he's gone it didn't go well but everyone was right. He was genuinely kind and normal for the most part (I think he's just good
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    at the masking), but in hindsight there were some red flags of slowly escalating controlling behavior. This kind of yanked the
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    wool off my eyes. He's incredulous that I'd break up over a cat, and then tried to gaslight me by saying "I cannot believe
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    you actually think I wouldn't feed your cat. I was maybe being a little hyperbolic, I had a few drinks the other night. Do you
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    think I'm a monster?" And so on. Then it turned to how controlling it was and he laughed at me like I'm being dramatic. Mean
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    laughter, I've never heard him do that before. It went around and around, he was very intentionally pretending to not understand and
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    was changing the subject a lot. I told him I'm done, I'll pack up whatever sh you have at my house and drop it at your work. I
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    guess I'm feeling relieved that I found out before I let him further into my life. It still s ks. I'm good at being single, so life moves on.
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    ALSO: he's a completely inside cat and I've changed the code on door locks. We're safe my
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    bentscissors "He said I'm choosing a cat over him." You sure are! And it's the right call. Keep the cat, dump the man. NTA

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