Indecisive fiancée demands partner move out of their shared home after an argument, she changes her mind months later, only to be told he is happier without her: 'Now she is begging me to move to the house'

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Emma Saven
Aug 4, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

This whole situation seems a bit off…

Get engaged to your fiancé, have your first child together, plan to move into her mother's house to avoid expenses (she doesn't live there, btw), have an argument with your fiancé, and she goes on, demanding that you can't move in with her and the baby… 

Relationships can get complicated, but we don't recommend planning a life with someone with whom you aren't compatible. We always say, It's so strange and confusing to see couples who act like they absolutely cannot stand sharing the same airspace as one another, and yet, they remain together. 

Of course, we can understand that there may be a bigger picture: Children involved, mixed finances, or even the absolute fear of facing the truth that you two just no longer work…

But when your partner is genuinely so confused about where they stand with you, post-birth hormones or not, one cannot just sit and wait around for them to make up their minds and decide they want to be together simply because they now need things from you!

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  • This husband-to-be is over his fiancée's back-and-forths about their relationship…

    One minute she is planning a wedding; the next she decides she wants to live alone, and then a few difficult weeks later, she is suddenly begging him to move back in with her… make it make sense. 

    Normally, we’re all in for a happy-ever-after, rooting for love to win. But at this point, we’re starting to wonder: is she really the princess in this story… or the villain?

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    "The only reason she wants me there is because she realizes the amount of work I was doing around the house"
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    AITAH for refusing to move in to my fiancee’s mothers house

    Until two months ago, my fiancee and I were living in a rented house that cost about 2.4k a month. I paid all of it and the bills. For over a year, she also has
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    been a stay at home mom since the birth of our son. However, she hated that house. Tbh, I don't think any of her reasons were particularly valid. But I agreed and
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    we planned on finding another place while I get ready to buy a house at the end of year. In in the meantime, her mom and her step dad bought a house in a
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    different city and moved far away. The house they own where we live is fully paid off. So they invited us to move into her house so we can continue paying the
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    bills like insurance property tax, and all the other stuff, but that would cost us somewhat less than what we were paying at the rented house.
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    I was against it at first because | felt like moving into her mother's house I would not really feel at home and I would always feel like I have something above my head
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    and also I didn't want that to be used against me in the future because at the end of the day I can take care of all my bills.
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    After her mother talked to me about it, I agreed to move in. A week before we moved in... my fiancee and I had an argument and she said she did not want me
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    to move in with in her to her mom's house anymore and she would go by herself. I ended staying at my parents house. Two months in, she now hates staying
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    at her mom's house. Her and her little brother don't get along too well (he lives there too) and her having to manage him (he is 18 but act like a toddler tbh) and the
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    pets she feels overwhelming. Now she is begging me to move to the house. I do not want to and I will not do that. I feel like the only reason she wants me there is because she realize the
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    amount of work I was doing around the house and now she got to do it all alone. I did most of the cooking and paid for a cleaning lady to clean for us...
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    things she has to do herself now. Currently, we share the baby time two days at a time. Even though I work full time (hybrid), I always
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    manage to put in half the work when it comes to the baby. Some days when I go to work, the baby stays with my mom who is retired.
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    In the last few days, she has gotten so desperate to have me live again with her that she already wants to move out of her mother's house and for us to get an apartment. I am not kin on that either.
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    Tbh, I feel happier not living with her. No more nagging, no more constant complaining about everything. She wants me to
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    move in but I actually don't see myself living with her again. Not having her around has somewhat make me realize how depr_sed I was around her.
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    Ironyismylife28 the only reason you might possibly TA is the fact that you are still calling her your fiance when you clearly no longer want to be with her at any level. Man up and cut her loose.
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    2old2tired4this "I'm miserable here. Come join me." Right... Her calling it off opened your eyes to a better future. You can't unsee that now. She FAFO'd. NTA
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    confusedcollstudent Break up please. It seems clear as day. NTA, do not move in to her moms where she will kick you out the next time she gets mad
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    Motor_Dark6406 NTA, She doesn't miss you, she misses the help. whoops.
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    Legal-Lingonberry577 Congratulations on waking up! She wanted to split, so its all on her. You have no obligation to acquiesce to her demands, because you're probably right, she just wants to use you again. No where in your story is she wanting to reconcile and work on your relationship. So good on you. Stay single and stay happy.
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