Girlfriend forced to rush her kitten to the vet after boyfriend's family causes a cat scare, she reconsiders the 5-year relationship when he takes family's side: 'He said what I did was ridiculous, that I made his family feel bad'

First-time cat pawrents are precious. No, really, they're like babies raising babies. They're a bit unsure of what's going on when their cats do one strange thing after another (and let's be honest, cats do plenty of shenanigans on a daily basis). But that's what the online feline family is for - this wholesome worldwide community is what gives a lot of first-time cat pawrents strength.

But what happens when your cat pawrent instincts kick in for the first time, and other people (close people, at that) are dismissive of your pawtective tendencies towards your new feline family member? Now, that's where the online feline family helps raise some serious red flags. 

And that's exactly what the online cat community did here. This young woman writing down below is considering her entire 5-year relationship with her boyfriend, because he was so dismissive of their kitten's health. It's not enough that the girlfriend tells he does absolutely nothing of the daily tasks of raising a kitten, he also sleeps soundly when the kitten needs to be rushed to a vet.

The cat is fine. Our anger levels are not.

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    AIO my boyfriend's family almost made my cat sick relationship
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    Context: I adopted a cat with my boyfriend about 1 month ago. My first time having a cat. Together for 5 years, living together for 4 years.
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    woman holding a newly adopted kitten, hugs the kitten in her arms
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    His family from another state has been visiting us for 10 days. Last night I went out to dinner with friends. On the way back, my
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    woman carries a kitten on her shoulder from behind, kitten is calm being on her
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    boyfriend's sister sent me a message saying that the cat might have eaten meat with garlic and onion. I
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  • At least the boyfriend's sister is trying to be responsible by telling the girlfriend about what had happened. The boyfriend couldn't even care enough to send his girlfriend the text, or worry at all that the kitten might not be fine.

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    cat tries to steal human food from a plate that's on the table, being sneaky with his paw
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    remembered reading that it was very toxic for cats and it was on a list of foods to avoid that the vet sent me.
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    She said she wasn't sure if he had eaten it, but she had left the food open on the stove and the cat was on top of the stove with its head in the pan.
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    kitten on the kitchen counter where he shouldn't be, but the kitten looks content to be on the counter
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    I got home in less than 15 minutes and my boyfriend was sleeping as if nothing had happened. She
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    lazy man laying down on the dofa with a board expression, almost falls asleep as if nothing happens
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    said she was worried and wanted to take him to the vet. He said no, that everything was going to be okay, even though he didn't even know if the cat was really okay.
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    This made me very angry. He said there was no way he could know that and it was best to go to the vet to be sure. He also
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    said that I had asked him several times not to leave food open. I took the cat and left almost midnight alone in an Uber to go to the vet. I said
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    these things to him, not to his family. His sister saw me very nervous and offered to go with me, but I said I didn't need to.
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    couple arguing, girlfriend is angry at the boyfroend, who raises his arms as if to say "I don't know what you're angry about"
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    He said what I did was ridiculous, that I made his family feel bad, that I showed who I really am by
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    caring more about "a cat" than about him or his family. It's worth mentioning that he doesn't do anything
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    couple arguing while sitting in the living room, boyfriend is angry at girlfriend, girlfriend's expression is confused by boyfriend's anger
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    to take care of the cat, I do everything myself, even though he seems to like the cat.
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  • This is rather ridiculous to read as cat pawrents who know the gravitas of growing a floofy friend in our house. If he really liked the cat, he would've felt the responsibility of a cat pawrent that we all know and share.

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    I went to the vet, he was examined, he took medication, he is fine.
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    cat at the vveterinary clinic being checked by two veterinarians, the cat looks healthy and okay
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    But now I'm questioning. I really had no way of knowing if everything was going to be okay and I wouldn't be at peace if I didn't go to the vet.
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    But now I don't know if I'm doubting what I did because he's trying to manipulate me into feeling crazy
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    (it happens often). I really wanted to defend my actions in this case because I think I followed the most prudent alternative. What do you think?
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    woman sits on the living room floor with a cat on her lap, they both look happy to be in each other's company
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    babybluebananas if he doesn't care about the things you do, he doesn't care about you as much as you think. to love someone is to see things from their
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    perspective too, and sometimes to put them first before your own needs. love is sacrifice. he clearly doesn't give a sh 823 > Reply
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    Ok-Time5209 OP⚫ Thank you. I have been thinking about this a lot and it was the opinion of a few friends but i wanted to hear the opinion of unbiased people.
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    There is s pattern here, i just need to start making decisions. Thank you! Reply
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