21-year-old's best friend mocks her boyfriend for being broke, he calls her out for always "forgetting" her wallet: 'From that day forward, I would never cover anything for her again'

Money is always a tough issue to navigate when it comes to friend groups. Not every meal, trip, or event is affordable, and people can feel pressured into opting for an activity that doesn't always make sense for them financially. The worst is when one person in the group is seemingly oblivious and lacks the self-awareness to orchestrate gatherings that are fair, equitable, and doable for everyone. It's these folks who need to be called out when appropriate.

Unfortunately, because finances are such a taboo issue to address in public, even the closest of friends can find themselves intimidated into saying or doing nothing. Of course, it shouldn't have to be like this. A good friend should be able to listen and adjust their approach to group activities in order to make everyone feel comfortable. In fact, normalizing these conversations is a lot easier than it may seem. Sure, we have all likely inherited and internalized the idea that people shouldn't talk about money, but the only way to avoid building resentment within a friend group is to voice those concerns. If you're a neutral party in this dynamic and you notice that one of your friends is uncomfortable spending so much money on a certain restaurant, for instance, then it's easiest for you to be the one to step up to the plate and confront the group. Without this level of transparency, friend groups can implode over this kind of dynamic if it worsens over time. 

In this instance, not only do we have a scenario where one person felt less comfortable spending so much money on a group trip, but we also have a situation where the big spender also happened to be a hypocrite. Keep scrolling below to see how this confrontation unfolded. 

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  • "My(20M) girlfriend’s(21F) best friend called me broke, then asked my girlfriend to pay for her trip"

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  • It's hard not to feel bad for the boyfriend in this story. He's trying his best to get in the good graces of his girlfriend's friend group, but he's also on a tight budget and can only participate in so many social activities. When his girlfriend's best friend called him broke and then kept on “forgetting” her wallet at group dinners, the boyfriend couldn't take it anymore and had to call her out on her hypocritical nonsense. Believe it or not, it sounds like she was a poser this whole time and was totally relying on friends for money. Let's just say this could all have been avoided if everyone lived within their respective means and if all parties were transparent with one another about what they were willing to spend.

  • I'm in my second year of college and I thought I had my life pretty much figured out. I had a girlfriend I loved, a part-time campus job that kept me afloat, and a small but close group of friends. Life wasn't perfect, but it was good.
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  • Then her best friend came into our lives. I'm not the type to dislike people without a reason, so when my girlfriend introduced me to her, I genuinely tried to be friendly. But from day one, she had this energy that I don't like. She made these small comments about my clothes, my old phone, and once even joked in front of everyone that my car looked like it was "built before Wi-Fi existed." I laughed it off, but it stung.
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  • It got worse when money came into the equation. One night, we were all out for coffee, and I paid for everyone. It wasn't a big deal to me, I like doing small gestures like that. But after that, her friend seemed to expect it. We'd go out, she'd forget her wallet, or nudge my girlfriend with a smile like it was some inside joke that I'd cover her.
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  • The real crack in the wall came when my girlfriend told me me her friend had been saying I was "cheap" because I didn't want to split the cost of a random weekend trip they planned without me. I couldn't instantly drop $300 for a trip, I was broke.
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  • It bothered me because I'd been working hard to be smart with money. My parents didn't have a safety net for me, so every dollar I spent mattered. I wasn't just blowing cash around to look good. I was trying to build a stable life.
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  • Here's the twist, that trip they took, my girlfriend ended up paying for her friend the whole time because "she didn't have enough saved." The same friend who called me broke. Ironically, a month before, she had been bragging about buying a $200 Zara haul at the mall. And then some expensive makeup at Sephora.
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  • Here's the petty part: I decided from that day forward, I would never cover anything for her again. No coffee, no snacks, nothing. I got Fizz to track every cent I spent so there'd be no "oh I'll pay you back" nonsense. If she forgot her wallet, I'd politely say, "No worries, you can grab it next time" and order my stuff alone.
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  • She hates it. She's not used to me setting boundaries, and now she doesn't get a cent out of me. My girlfriend's noticed too, she said it's weird seeing her friend actually pay for her own things. Lmao
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  • Sometimes you don't need to fight someone to protect yourself. You just need to stop giving them access to the parts of you they can take advantage of.
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  • TheExaspera • 8h ago Good for you! Maybe she'll just "find" some new, more naive, friends.
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  • Elegant Medium8752 • 8h ago Not paying for some1 else should not be considered petty... it should be considered normal
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  • Trashisland2000 8h ago . Your gf shoulda shut that sh down
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  • • toomany_geese · 7h ago Boy, why you dating a girl who's besties with ar de a b who puts you down? Why she enabling behavior by her broke a covering for her too? Better think long and hard about that one
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