'She will not be allowed to attend my wedding': Bride-to-be refuses to let 23-year-old brother bring her high school nemesis, Carrie, as a plus-one to her wedding, so he refuses to attend, sparking distress among their family

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    Woman and man arguing whilst sitting on the couch, man has his hands on his head in distress
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    AITA for telling my brother he cannot bring his date to my wedding?

    I (27F) I'm getting married to my fiancé (26M)who I have been with for the last six years. Our wedding date is very soon and last month I asked for all RSVPs to please let
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    me know who they were all bringing to the wedding my brother (23M) did not respond to this so I texted him to find out who he was bringing. He acted
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    very nonchalant and he said oh It's just Carrie (25F). Now me and Carrie have a very long history, but I will sum it up to the fact that she was my high school bu y. I
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    told him I'm sorry, but she will not be allowed to attend my wedding and I stated that she bu ed me throughout high school saying things about me
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    behind my back to several different people to the point where I only talk to two people my entire senior year because of her. Just a week prior to this
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    conversation that I had with my brother, I was talking with some of my friends who still live in our hometown. And one of my friends let's call her Chelsea (29F).
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    Told me a story about how Carrie had tried to get Chelsea's boyfriend to cheat on her with Carrie. I did tell my brother the story I was told from Chelsea
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    Girls cornering another girl at school
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    about Carrie that happened three weeks before that conversation. My brother then stated that he would not be coming to my wedding if he could not bring
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    Carrie with him. I said I'm sorry, but I will not have my high school bu y attend my wedding. It's your choice to not come, but we would be holding a spot for him at the
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    ceremony and reception if he decided last minute that he was going to attend. I also stated that if you would like to bring anyone else he's more than welcome to,
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    that she is the one person that I refuse to have on my wedding. I told my mother that my brother had decided that he would not be coming to my wedding and she
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    cried and tried to get me to change my mind to allow her to come, but I just know having her in attendance I'd be super self- conscious about everything going
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    on and more worried that she's gonna be talking s tabout me behind my back to my family. So Reddit, am I the a le for telling my brother that he cannot bring his plus one to my wedding?
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    Party-Pangolin-2359 Tell your whole family about Carrie so they can have your back when she starts talking trash. Don't give her a 2nd thought and enjoy your wedding to the max. It's the best revenge to be happy in front of your enemies.
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    MackaRhoni NTA This is YOUR WEDDING. You and your Fiancee must be comfortable at YOUR WEDDING. Carrie must not be there.
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    silentjudge NTA. You're entitled to banning a specific person, who did you wrong in the past, from your wedding day.
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    You're not barring your brother — just Carrie. He's the one choosing to take it personally to him. As a side note, your mother should be on your side about this, and trying to convince your brother, not you.
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    FatChance68 NTA I wouldn't be surprised if she specifically started hanging out with your brother for an invite.
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    Rikunda NTA. You were reasonable. You explained yourself. You kept the door open.
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    Manky-Cucumber Honey, you can ban any person for any reason from it because it's YOUR WEDDING!

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