‘My coworkers aren't happy they didn't let her go over all of this’: Healthcare worker files an HR complaint against a 22-year-old coworker for creating a hostile environment, and the company responds with a demotion

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Aug 24, 2025 7:00 AM EDT

Workplaces always have one person who thinks cruelty is charisma. At this clinic, it is a 22‑year‑old who gossips about coworkers' personal history, mocks people for their preferences, and even tries to humiliate others in front of colleagues. Nothing about it was shocking by the time she started dragging up a coworker's prison record for an audience of new hires. At that point, the line had been crossed so many times it barely existed.

The problem is that offices tend to run on silence. People tolerate the snide comments, they roll their eyes at the harassment, and they adjust while waiting for someone else to deal with it. Eventually one person cannot take it anymore and files the report. That becomes the cycle: endless awful behavior, followed by one person forced to play the bad guy for saying enough. It should not feel brave to ask for basic respect, but it usually does because management only acts when embarrassment is unavoidable.

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  • AITAH For filing a formal HR complaint against a coworker?

    "HR and the practice manager were shocked by this behavior. I am not the first to complain about her"
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  • 1 35F filed an HR complaint against a coworker 22F yesterday and now I'm having second thoughts and feeling like the ahle.
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  • We work in Healthcare. So my coworker 22f, Jane, has never grown out of her high school "mean girl" tendencies.
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  • She's the type of person who being r de or talking r de gives her some sort of superiority complex. We've both been with the company for about 2 years.
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  • It hasn't really ever been particularly directed towards me, but I do know that buying coworkers got her fired at her last job.
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  • We've been going through a transition since 4 of our coworkers all got pregnant around the same time and are all going on leave, we also had 1 person quit
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  • (because of Jane and she openly told this to management), and 1 move away. So we have a pretty much all new team which has been nice to just start fresh with new people.
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  • I'm in a position where I train the new folks how to do their job, and it's been great just starting fresh.
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  • Then I heard her say about me and my other coworker who are close, "I'm not sure why anyone would hang out with those 2, one is a divorced single mom whose been to prison (me), and the other is a divorced lesbian (my friend)."
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  • Me going to prison isn't information I like to share around the workplace. It happened over a decade ago, it isn't secret and is easy to figure out by googling my name (which is how she knows) but it was discouraging to have all my new hires know that about me.
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  • I was pretty shocked, and I was р ed. This was my last straw with her, she also consistently tells the men we work with not to cross their legs because it "looks gay" while we have openly gay men on our team.
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  • On our company trip this year she pulled down another coworkers swimsuit top in the pool infront of everyone and filmed it, that coworker ended up quitting shortly after because the girl faced no consequences.
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  • She also accused me of throwing away certain medical instruments since I'm the only one who cleans up after everyone (this is true) so if something is missing i must be tossing it.
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  • She also hates both of the doctors and tells the new employees not to listen to them.
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  • I've never filed a formal complaint against someone ever. But my life is already a J sh show and I don't need a coworker who can't grow the f to make my work life h I.
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  • HR and the practice manager were both extremely supportive, and also extremely shocked by this behavior.
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  • I am also not the first to complain to management about her, but I'm the only one who has ever escalated it.
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  • They didn't share what they are doing to discipline her, but essentially told me she's going to be given an option on what she has to do to rectify the situation, or quit herself.
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  • I'm worried that I escalated it and may have just rocked the boat.
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  • Tldr: filed a formal hr complaint against a coworker for her nasty behavior.
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  • UPDATE: They did not let her go. She was in a position of supervision, so they demoted her, but that is all they did which to me is absolute BULLS
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  • My coworkers aren't happy they didn't let her go over all of this.
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  • The punishment was predictable. A demotion, not a dismissal. Stripped of a title but kept on payroll, because replacing her costs more than tolerating her. The office now has less chaos, but the root problem still clocks in every morning.

    Workplaces pretend to value professionalism, yet what they really value is convenience. Bad behavior is rarely eliminated. It is simply reorganized.

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