'I will be reporting this!': Entitled hotel concierge demands that her coworker show up 30-45 minutes early to every shift, coworker refuses and gets their manager involved

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Aug 25, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Everyone has had a coworker at some point in their professional careers who somehow thinks they can order you around despite the fact that you are equals. Perhaps that coworker started working at the company before you and has decided for themselves that they are slightly senior as a result. Sometimes, people think they're in charge of you just because they're older, even if you're the one who actually possesses more experience and skills.

Normally, the best course of action in these scenarios is to ignore the difficult coworker as much as you can. However, every so often, they made an offhand remark or required something of you that is so outside of their own jurisdiction that you have no choice but to stand up for yourself. When this happens, try to rehearse your speech and do your best to keep your comments measured and specific. You still have to work with this person, so it's probably best to maintain as much of a sense of professionalism as possible. Another option is to pull your supervisor aside and kindly explain the situation. If you're comfortable doing so, then you can essentially leave it to your manager to do the difficult part.

But what happens when your manager can't see what you see? That's when you have brush up on your confrontation skills, like this employee did, and give your coworker a firm but polite piece of your mind. Keep scrolling below for the full story and for the best reactions from members of this online community. 

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  • "My coworker is pressuring me to start 30+ minutes before my actual start time"

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  • This front desk agent at a hotel chain was told that she should show up to her shifts 10 minutes early to facilitate an easy transition from one coworker to the next. Everyone agreed upon this arrangement. However, one coworker decided that it was well within her rights to demand that the author show up 30-45 minutes early before every shift, despite the fact that there was absolutely no need for such a premature arrival. It was time for the atuhor to remind her that their manager is the person who is actually in charge…

  • I work in hospitality, specifically hotel hospitality and we recently had a meeting regarding "handovers" and how we should show up a little early to ensure that we can get up to speed before our shift starts and the other staff can depart from their shift on time.
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  • Don't get me wrong, great idea and my manager specifically said it should only be 5-10 minutes which im more than happy to do.
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  • However, a couple of days after that meeting. My coworker kept looking at me in a disgusting way, which i ignored. This went on for a few more days before she eventually took me into one of our vacant meeting rooms and said
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  • "Me and (the manager) are upset that you are not committed to the handover schedule we set in last weeks meeting.." and begins
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  • bereding me for not showing up "At least 30-45 minutes before shift". For those who have worked in Hotel hospitality before, you know that even on a bad day.
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  • There isnt 30-45 minutes of stuff to catch up on. I explained this to her and how in the meeting the manager even said 5-10 mins was more than enough. She then got angry and frustrated and exclaimed "I will be reporting this to (the manager)".
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  • Basically saying that my manager wasn't upset with me, she was just saying it to make me feel more pressured. I'm really unsure what to do now. Luckily i have a few days off to think and ask you guys. But i really am unsure what my next action should be.
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  • okayyeahnah 15 hr. ago Unless they want to pay you for that time it doesn't belong to them. Put this in writing to your manager and get confirmation in writing about the start and handover time.
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  • XR171 15 hr. ago Also document what your co-worker said. What's best is doing it in writing to your manager. Something like "Per Karen I should be showing up unpaid 30-45 minutes early for handover. You stated
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  • handover. You stated this should only take 5-10 minutes which I repeated to Karen who then said she would report me to you. For the sake of clarification how long should handover take?"
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  • Washington_Dad ___ . 15 hr. ago Don't start one minute sooner than they are willing to pay you. If you get it in writing that they want you to start working 10 minutes before shift make sure you track all that extra time on your end since they would legally owe you money for that time.
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  • Any-Cartographer-675 OP - 15 hr. ago Is this legally viable in the UK? I know the US and UK have different employment laws etc. If that is the case i will just keep track of the 5-10 mins
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  • ive already taken then draft them to my manager at the end of every month/when i leave
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  • EverybodysMeemaw⚫ 15 hr. ago Do not work for free.
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  • nabulsha 14 hr. ago • This is thevonly answer, even 5 to 10 minutes every day equals hundreds over a year easily.
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  • gingergal3 15 hr. ago First, confirm that your manager said what she claims the manager said. Don't let your coworker pretend to be an intermediary. Go right to the source. Second, get the policy in writing from the manager.
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