Kind woman finally snaps at her entitled neighbor who keeps trying to turn her into a free cat-sitter, a babysitter and maid all at once: 'She just sorta shoved stuff in my lap'

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    "[Am I wrong] for snapping at my neighbor after she kept trying to make me her free maid babysitter and pet sitter all in one?"

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    so this lady next door has been slowly pushing it. at first it was like can you grab my mail since ur already walking by. fine whatever then it turned into her leaving her dog leash in my hand once and just walking away like i was automatically gonna pet sit while she ran inside.
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    another time she asked if i could just watch her kid for 15 mins while she ran errands and it turned into over an hour, it finally snapped when she tried to dump a whole list on me like feed her cat water her plants and maybe watch her kid all at once cause shes so busy. i told her im not her maid or her sitter and she needs to stop acting like im on call for her.
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    she went off about how im a terrible neighbor and now shes gossiping with the lady across the street about me. even my mom said i couldve been nicer but i honestly dont think i was wrong. aita?
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    EDIT: wow this kinda blew up. tysm to everyone who commented, i was honestly second guessing myself but reading thru made me realize i'm not crazy lol, a lot of ppl said it's about boundaries and yeah thats true tbh, she just kept inching further every time i said yes to small stuff.
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    to clear up a couple things i never agreed to be her sitter, she just sorta shoved stuff in my lap. like with the dog leash thing she literally walked off before i could even say anything.
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    and with the 15 min kid watch i was stuck over an hour, couldn't even leave cuz i didn't wanna abandon the kid, anyway i'm not gonna engage with her drama or gossip. i'll just keep it polite but firm. lesson learned say no earlier, I appreciate you all tons
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    OhmsWay-71 NTA. She's a bully. She pushes herself onto people in the hopes that most of us don't like confrontation, so we just don't say anything, it feels not worth it. Then, if the bully does get push back, they use shame. Let her be mad. She's ped she got called out more than anything. If you see the same neighbour she was complaining to about you, take them some cookies and apologize for them having to be dragged into anything. You say something like...
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    "I'm so sorry you got dragged into the drama. I was trying to stay neighbourly but when she started asking me to watch her children and her pets, I had to say no, but apparently I was not allowed. I'm just sorry it wasted any of your time. Please enjoy the cookies". And walk away quick. It's not a discussion. You are the quiet, nice, keep to themselves neighbour. For the actual neighbour, be grateful she won't ask anymore, and in a few months, when she thinks you might let her use you again and
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    Cutebooty04 OP yeah that's exactly how it feels. she really thought i'd just keep saying yes forever because i don't like conflict. i love your idea with the cookies too, that's such a smooth way to kill the drama without giving her any more room to twist things.
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    Appropriate Reach 7854 NTA. That lady saw a chill neighbor and thought "free labor". You set a boundary after she pushed way past reasonable. That's not ride, that's survival
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    Cutebooty04 OP yeah thats exactly how it felt. like she clocked me as an easy target and just kept piling more and more on me til i finally lost it. im not r de for drawing the line, im just tired of people thinking kindness equals free labor
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    KAJ35070 NTA - Nope, nope and nope. You give that lady an inch she is going to take all the miles. You did the right thing.
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    Cutebooty04 OP thank you. that's exactly how it felt, like every little favor just kept snowballing into something bigger. glad i finally drew the line before it went any further.
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    No_Scarcity8249 Oh F her. She knows exactly what she's doing and you let her off light.
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    Cutebooty04 OP yeah exactly. she plays it off like she's just asking a little favor but she knows what shes doing. honestly i prob let her off easy compared to how far she pushed it.

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