29-year-old daughter refuses parents' demand to move in with her after dad loses his job, payback for years of them telling her she'd ‘never make it on her own’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 12, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

Every child wants their parents to be proud of them, and every parent wants their children to make them proud. It is a natural course of life within a family. Parents want to see their children standing on their own two feet, making accomplishments, and becoming independent adults.

Some parents, however, have higher expectations, sometimes to an extent that feels impossible to reach. Being a child to a parent of that sort is no picnic, and the 29-year-old woman in the story below is the perfect explanation why. Since she was a child, her parents have been making it clear that "making the proud" is an impossible task. They spent years telling her she was too lazy, not smart enough, and incapable of making it on her own.

Oh, how she proved them wrong.

Now, she is a successful homeowner, and her parents are jobless and without a place to stay. They turned to her, expecting her to welcome them into their home. Yet she doesn't feel like she owes them anything, especially not an invitation to the house they never believed she would be able to own.

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    A woman standing on a porch in front of a house
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    WIBTA if I don’t let my parents move into my house after they spent years telling me I’d “never make it on my own”?

    I (29F) bought my first home last year after working two jobs and saving aggressively. Growing up, my parents constantly told me I was "too lazy" and "not smart
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    enough" to ever live independently. When I announced I bought a house, they literally laughed and said, "We'll see how long that lasts."
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    Fast forward: my dad (62) recently lost his job, and my mom (60) never worked outside the home. They're in debt and about to lose their rental. They
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    now want to move into my house "temporarily." Problem is, I live in a two-bedroom with my boyfriend, and the idea of cohabiting with my parents, who
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    still treat me like a failure, stresses me out. My siblings think it's "my duty" as
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    the one who's "doing well." I feel guilty, but also resentful. WIBTA if I told them no?
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    redtree-forever01 Just tell them it wouldn't be to their high standards. Live your life in peace.
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    Spacer_Spiff NTA. Why don't siblings put up parents if it's a childs duty?
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    R e Vermicelli2268 YWNBTA They are old enough to figure it out. And if at their big ages the only person they can turn to for help is their child who
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    they have consistently denigrated, they aren't living their lives right. More importantly if they need living assistance at their ages
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    you will probably never get them out. They are also unlikely to have retirement savings. What happens if your dad can't get a comparable job? They will be your burden for life because "family".
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    Fun-Bread-8560 They can go to your siblings.
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    hermione1906 NTA, and tell them they are being "too lazy" and should both get jobs. Do not jeopardize your peace and mental health for people that treat you poorly
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    Spiritual-Bridge3027 Do not let them move in with you. You worked hard to own a home and it's your safe space. You deserve to not let toxic people live with you.
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    Tell your siblings clearly that they need to figure out who is taking the parents in - it will not be you. NTA
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