Update: 'Is he using ChatGPT to talk to me?': 27-year-old man gets called out for using AI to talk to 34-year-old date

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Sep 18, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

This person was called out for using ChatGPT to write his end of the conversation with a prospective date! 

As if our lives weren't dystopian enough, the creep of generative AI into daily life is certainly noticeable. It's hard to avoid, and at this point, a lot of people can tell when someone is writing to them using ChatGPT due to its "tells." For example, ChatGPT is quite sycophantic, and it loves to hype up its users, saying things like, "That's a really insightful question" or "You're not imagining that — you're tapping into something real." It has this one conversational quirk that's already been widely mocked, where it says, "It's not just X — it's Y." Not to mention that as a large language model, ChatGPT is verbose, writing paragraphs upon paragraphs where just a few sentences would suffice. 

I find the sycophantic way that these chatbots talk to be really irritating — the sickly sweet way they heap praise upon their user is a transparent attempt to keep the user from closing out the chat. But a lot of people don't mind that at all. In fact, some people even fall in love with AI bots themselves! But for most people, using ChatGPT is just an easy way to get out of writing something they don't feel like typing out themselves. 

Let's check out one fascinating case right here: this dude keeps asking ChatGPT to respond to a potential date. That's crazy for a lot of reasons, but it certainly implies that he's not looking for a soul mate, because why else would he farm out his own voice to a bot if he's searching for true love? That's the kind of thing you do if you're searching for a quick fling. Maybe he's just self-conscious about his communication style… but I've never met anyone who really cares about typos in text messages that much. As long as your texts are mostly legible, who cares if you forget some punctuation or spell things wrong? 

It's a really baffling choice, and as you can see below, when called out, the "vibes" of the conversation really shift. I hope this woman doesn't continue to give this dude the time of day, since clearly, he can't even be bothered to actually talk to her. 

Up next, check out these Uber and Lyft rides that are driving people crazy, like one person who noticed that their "Driver [was] texting at 75 MPH." 

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    Woman in black shirt showing phone to man in green button down shirt sitting across from her at restaurant setting
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    "Is this guy using Chat GPT to talk to me?!"

    I definitely relate to what you're saying. After college, a lot of my friends moved away or just got caught up in life—marriage, kids, careers and we slowly lost touch. These days I mostly focus on work and keep to myself. It's crazy how much things change as you get older. That's cool though that you've been able to connect with your neighbor- sometimes those unexpected friendships turn out to be the most meaningful.
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    CatLady1226 OP Ok I used chat to respond to him. Will keep you updated
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    Today 8:37 PM Yeah, it really does change, doesn't it? Life just pulls people in different directions. I've definitely felt that same shift too ―where the circle gets smaller, but sometimes deeper. And yeah, the neighbor thing has been a nice surprise! Funny how connection can show up where you least expect it. + Sent
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    This person goes on to share the rest of the conversation, with both parties apparently using AI generated conversations

    Ok hopefully I did this right - I didn't know so many people would get invested in this!! Adding pics in comments for where we're at currently. I have been entering his replies into chat GPT and just tailoring them a little bit. This is a '27 year old male' allegedly.
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    Today 7:15 AM Yeah, it's interesting how life reshapes your circle over time- fewer people, but often more meaningful bonds. I'm really glad you've found that with your neighbor, those kinds of connections can be the most unexpected but rewarding. By the way, I'm curious—what are you hoping to find on here? Just seeing what's out there, or looking for something more specific?
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    Today 2:20 PM I'd say a bit of both. I'm definitely open to meaningful connection if it feels natural, but I'm also just enjoying good conversation and seeing where things lead. How about you?
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    I'm so bored with this conversation by now!

    That's honestly the best way to be. I'm in a similar place- definitely open to something real if the vibe is there. I'm not just here to pass time, though... ideally, I'd love to find someone I really connect with—my future wife, if I'm lucky. But I think it all starts with good conversation and a genuine vibe. What kind of connection feels most natural to you?
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    Today 3:03 PM I get that. it's nice when someone's serious about connection but not forcing it. For me it usually clicks when things just feel easy... good convo, a little teasing... If that's there, Im definitely intrigued. Do you usually know right away if theres a vibe, or does it take time for you to figure that out?
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    Lots of talk about vibes, when the vibes are really just ChatGPT monotony

    Today 3:51 PM Yeah, I feel that—when there's good convo, a little teasing, and it just flows, that's when I know something's there. I usually pick up on the vibe pretty quick... but over the phone, it's hard to really tell. That's why I try not to drag things out too long without meeting. I'd rather see how the energy feels in person-way more real that way. You seem easy to talk to so far, though
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    Yeah it can be hard through texting for sure. What do you usually like to do for a first date?
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    "Energy," "vibes," ugh, enough already!

    It varies person to person to be honest. But its always something in the daytime or early evening, intimate enough to get a good feel for the energy but public enough to feel comfortable and safe with a new person.
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    That makes sense. Random question.. I've noticed your messages are super well- written, almost like ChatGPT- level smooth Not saying that's a bad thing at all, just curious.. have you been using it to help with our convo lol
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    Are you ready for whiplash?!

    Absolutely not love But thank you i can cut back on the cheesiness if you'd like im just trying to be as genuine as possible
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    Let's note the instant change in tone, the way he calls this person "love," the lack of punctuation… it's so blatantly obvious. 

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    Today 5:47 PM No your responses are just very different in other messages than this one. Very polished lol. I wouldn't say cheesy, just doesn't feel like a natural convo is all.
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    Mhmmmm... whatever you say, sir

    Hmm I honestly don't know what to say lol Maybe it's just the fact that I smoked a bit and now my thought process is in a whole different universe. Everything's hitting a little deeper than usual
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