24-year-old brother hides car keys from 21-year-old sister, after she constantly takes his car without permission for hours, never refills the gas, and then tells parents he’s dramatic: ‘Says I should just be supportive of her freedom’

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  • Girl leaning on the car window
  • My sibling thinks my car is their personal Uber and when I confronted her, she thinks I'm acting like a "parent"

    I've been dealing with this for months now and it's driving me insane. My sibling (21F) has decided my car is basically theirs whenever they want it.
  • I'm 24M and I worked my a off to even afford this car in the first place. Insurance, maintenance, gas, it all comes out of my pocket.
  • At first I didn't mind letting her borrow it once in a while for something important like work or school. But now it's just constant.
  • She'll take it to go "grab food" with her friends, come back hours later, and the gas tank is basically on empty. She never refills it.
  • She never asks me if I'm okay with her taking it. Sometimes I literally wake up and the car is just gone.
  • The worst part was when I finally snapped and told her she needs to at least fill up the tank or stop taking it altogether, she called me stingy.
  • Said I was "acting like a parent" and that I should just be supportive of her "freedom." Like sorry, I didn't realize being a supportive brother meant funding your joyrides while I'm the one stressing about bills and gas money.
  • It's gotten to the point where I'm hiding my keys because I can't trust her not to just take the car without asking.
  • And then she turns it around, telling my parents I'm being dramatic. I can't win.
  • Frustrated man looking out the car window
  • Cocoa Almonds Rock Tell your parents what's happening. If they're on her side, tell them to loan her their car because yours is off limits. It's in your name, right? Keep your keys on your person, and don't let her borrow it again. You're lucky she hasn't wrecked it. Is she covered under insurance? She should be paying that, as well!
  • Soft-Break-2655 Lock your keys up, set clear boundaries, and don't let guilt trips make you responsible for her freedom. Your car, your rules.
  • Wakemeup3000 You aren't required to let your sister take your car. She can tell your parents anything she wants but keep those keys on your body at all times.
  • chops 1943 I'd revoke all privileges until she learns her lesson. Otherwise she will continue to walk all over you dude.
  • Moneia Just be supportive of her freedom to buy her own fre in' car and make sure to carry the keys with you at all times
  • eeyorethechaotic You're not acting like a parent. You're acting like a human being who doesn't enjoy being taken advantage of. Your sister is trying to manipulate you. If she wants full access to a car, she should buy one.
  • therealkingwilly Why does it matter what she says to your or your parents? You're an adult, ain't you? Hide the keys. Problem solved.
  • FreshLiterature It's your car my dude, why is this even a conversation let alone one involving your parents? It's not a toy.
  • Unlucky-Put4702 So Let her call you dramatic. Let her call you anything she wants. Let her call a taxi....'cause calling you ain't gonna work.
  • New-Job1761 Put your foot down NOW! Or give it to her with a nearly empty tank.
  • Mecha-Dave You should probably move out, if you can. 24 and living at home can't be fun.
  • nicekid81 So by "supporting her freedom" and letting her take your car, she is suppressing your freedom. to be mobile. Funny how that works.

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