‘I've been trying to figure out the most tactful way to break it off since our argument where you wanted me to unalive my cat to save money’: Cat loving man breaks up with feline hating girlfriend because she thinks he loves his cat too much

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Laurent Shinar • Writer and Editor
Sep 22, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Jealousy is a very ugly emotion. It makes us do and say some seriously unthought out and unhinged things and at its worst it turns us into complete monsters. Which is pretty much what one woman became when she simply could not handle the love and warmth that her boyfriend shared with his cat child. Purrhaps it was a symptom of the girlfriend's need for complete attention and expression of love that she was denied in her youth.

But no matter where it came from, coming to the point where you suggest giving up on the life of a beloved cat child instead of investing in a little bit of medical treatment is a hundred steps too far for any cat lover's taste. So let this serve as a warning to those who are jealous and a reminder to those who love cats, feline love trumps all, there is no getting between it and those who attempt to will face consequences.
 

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    My [25F] boyfriend [27M] of a year has a cat and the way he treats it bothers me.
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    I've been dating this guy for a year. Otherwise nice, handsome, funny, good job. But he has a cat that he's had for years that I think he's way too attached to and affectionate about.
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    If the cat is sitting on his lap, he'll avoid getting up unless he has to, citing the cat being asleep or in his terms "she's catting". He's asked
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    me to get him stuff from the kitchen when I get a drink, when he could just move the cat himself.
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    Sometimes he'll be at the computer, on the couch, or even lying in bed and the cat will jump on him. Or he'll come home when I'm already there since I have a key and sometimes get off work before and the cat will run to greet him. What
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    bothers me is in these instances he's said, more than once, "there's my girl!" and stop what he's doing to scratch the cat behind its ears or pet it or whatever.
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  • Jealousy is an ugly and powerful emotion and for those who cannot handle it, or recognize when it has them in its grasp there are dire consequences to pay. Especially when all this man is doing is loving his cat a legitimate amount and nothing more. 

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    This seems like way too much attention for a grown man to be lavishing on a cat of all things.
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    man with short dark hair and glasses holding an orange and white cat next to his face
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    I've considered suggesting he get rid of it, but he's had it for something like seven years and don't know if he'd give it up. Do I have any options here?
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    lagelthrow That's uh... very normal cat- ownership behavior. He
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    loves his kitty. I can't tell if this is a troll. It seems like a very weird thing to be SO perturbed by.
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  • Oh you are so right clever commenter! This is seriously weird to be so perturbed (great word), but a man who loves his cat a totally normal amount. Like there are people who maybe take things a little far, but at the end of the day we are talking about cat children. It is in the name, you love them like a child, no different.

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    Absolutely, you can't suggest someone get rid of a pet because they love it too much. If y'all had issues with the cat's behavior or
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    allergies, maybe getting rid of the cat could be a discussion you could have, but he sometimes doesn't get up because the cat is on
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    his lap, and he often pets the cat and is happy to see her when he gets home, and you want him to get rid of the cat?
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    Update Yesterday I posted about concerns I had with the way I thought my boyfriend was overly affectionate with his cat.
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    I, like the rest of my family, view pets in a utilitarian light. I'm just not comfortable with a lot of affection being displayed towards an animal even if it's supposedly "normal". I gave it
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    consideration during and after the tread and decided to break up with my boyfriend. When I broached the topic and the reason his response was:
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    "Oh, good. To be honest I've been trying to figure out the most tactful way to break it off since our argument where you wanted me to eith my cat to save money. I also wanted to take time to think about if I was sure I thought
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    we were done. You can give me your apartment key back now and have your stuff out by Friday night. I'll buzz you in if you can't finish tonight." So I guess that's it. That was abrupt.
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    Edit: Lots of people are commenting about the euthanasia thing. I was surprised he'd spend $600 on a vet bill, I figured putting the cat down would be cheaper. My dad never spent money like that on a vet.
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