'I feel I'll resent him': Husband refuses to take money or home from parent's inheritance so prove he can earn it 'by himself,' wife gets involved and demands he let his parent's financially help them

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Sep 28, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Married life is never a straight and narrow path. It's filled with unexpected and serendipitous highs and lows that never end. The story here revolves around a married couple and their finances. Pink Floyd spoke about money the best, but it really does come between people, even married couples. The protagonist is a woman who needs advice on her husband. Her husband's family is well off, and his parents own a couple homes, as well as having a lot of savings. Though they're still alive, she knows that eventually they'll need to plan their future and take into account the inevitable inheritance. Her husband, however, disagrees that they would need anything. He's old fashioned, meaning he wants to earn everything alone. 

This old-fashioned stance on earnings or materialism really are out of date. If your parents have a home or money to give you, it's only behooving to take it. There's no point in trying to be the man in this economy. Read the full story below for all the details. 

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    AITAH for expecting my husband to accept his inheritance?

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    UPDATE: Thank you so much for your both positive and negative opinions on this. I appreciate everyone who took time and
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    effort to write what they think WITHOUT insulting me or my husband. You're great, thanks❤
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    My husband (31m) and me (30f) had a rant about a hypothetical
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    situation that's definitely happening in the future, because it's life.
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    His parents built a house together, which they live in. They also had a big apartment in the city which passed down to their
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    older daughter. She lives there permanently her whole life. They are going to leave him the house as an inheritance.
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    Yesterday he told me that he doesn't want to accept anything from his parents, either before or after they passed away. He
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    doesn't want/need the house or the money from selling the house to secure our own home, down-
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    Inheritance
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    payments or whatever our plans will be. He is ready to give it to his sister or anyone else interested.
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    His main argument is he wants everything to be "his own", earned by him.
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    I honestly tried to understand his point of view. I understand that he doesn't want any conflicts with other relatives. Which we do not
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    Money
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    expect to happen. The house should just get passed down to him by law without a problem.
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    We are not rich. We don't own any property since we moved to another country, and sometimes struggling financially. Back in our
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    country we lived in my apartment, which now is permanently occupied by my mother (it was a gift to me before I moved, but I
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    gave it back, so she could retire there). He has great relationships with his parents and sister. No problem there.
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    UPDATE: we don't have kids or have any plans on having kids.
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    I fear I'll resent him if he does this. I believe it is ideologically stupid and unreasonable.
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    AITAH for not understanding him and wanting him to accept help and/or inheritance from his parents?
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    Life_Temperature... • 17h ago He's ready to give the house to "anyone else interested". You're interested. NTA
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    PhillyFotan 17h ago Mona Lisa Vito: So what's your problem?
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    Vinny Gambini: My problem is, I wanted to win my first case without any help from anybody.
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    Mona Lisa Vito: Well, I guess that plan's moot. Vinny Gambini: Yeah.
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    your-yogurt • 17h ago tell him im interested. let his parents give the house to me
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