Woman offers husband's struggling friend to stay in family home while they're on vacation, returns home 2 weeks later to months' worth of food eaten and broken kitchenware, tells husband he isn't allowed back in home: 'It’s insane how much was missing'

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Emma Saven
Oct 1, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

This kindness doesn't seem to be taken for weakness, but rather seems to be taken for: Sleep in my house, Eat everything I own, Break my kitchenware, and then act surprised when I kick you out…This wife is on her last straw of patience after letting a mutual acquaintance of hers and her husband's stay at their house while going through a "rental scam", at least that's what he called it. They are a generous couple, happy to open up their home to someone in need, especially while they're away on a two-week vacation.

However, it is after their trip when disaster strikes…When the couple returns home, everything has been eaten, from jams and jars to meats and beets. Everything. On top of that, he has broken kitchenware and then proceeded to make fun of the wife when she commented on it.

His disrespect for her and their home, which used to have enough food to feed a family for six months and now has maybe one ripe banana left (…nope, there it goes), forces the wife to show their friend the door, ensuring he never visits again…

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  • However, her husband feels guilty for kicking out a friend and begins suggesting forgiveness. His wife is a good woman, and is certainly open to forgiveness…as long as the forgiveness is taking place at least 5 miles away from her pantry. Because that’s certainly the last time she offers someone to ‘take whatever you want,’ after failing to realize that what he wanted was to basically eat the whole kitchen sink if he could've…

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  • AITA for not wanting our friend to ever come back to our house after he ate literally everything we owned?

    My husband and I live abroad. Earlier this year, a mutual acquaintance (let's call him "K") reached out saying he'd been scammed with an apartment rental and had nowhere to stay.
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  • At first, we only offered a weekend, but he was polite, helped around the house, and seemed grateful, so we ended up letting him stay the full 20 days he'd asked for.
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  • During that time, some things rubbed us the wrong way. He never bought groceries, and multiple times he pretended he was going to pay but "forgot his wallet" or claimed he could only use Apple Pay (not accepted at our local supermarket).
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  • He'd eat way more than his share (once my husband and I shared half a pizza and he ate the other pizza and a half without contributing).
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  • Still, we felt bad for him, so we let it go. We stayed friendly, and a few months later we were planning a 17-day trip.
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  • Since he was struggling with rent, we offered him to stay at our place in exchange for taking care of our dog.
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  • I even wrote a Google Doc with instructions for the house, dog care, gym access, etc.
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  • I told him he could eat anything that was going to expire (fruit, veggies, yogurt, etc.).
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  • When we came back... EVERYTHING was gone. And I mean everything. The entire fridge, freezer, pantry.
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  • He finished two jars of jam, a jar of peanut butter, a giant Costco bottle of olive oil, condiments, rice, snacks, cheese, even my husband's supplements (creatine, protein, collagen).
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  • He completely destroyed a ceramic pan. He consumed things that usually last us six months in just 2 weeks.
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  • I honestly suspect he might have taken stuff with him because it's insane how much was missing.
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  • I didn't confront him except to ask him to replace the pan, which he mocked me about ("it's just a pan, why are you making it a big deal?").
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  • I felt deeply disrespected. Now he keeps texting me, acting like nothing happened, and wants to hang out.
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  • I told my husband I don't want him in our home ever again. My husband says I'm being too harsh, and if he wants to stay friends, that's his choice, but I feel completely taken advantage of and disrespected.
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  • So... AITA for not wanting to see this guy ever again and refusing to let him come back to our house?
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  • Smooch No He didn't consume it all in that time, he emptied your place and took it back to his to last him a while. He stole from you like he was on a shopping spree.
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  • OptimistPrime527 NTA this guy robbed you. Unless he was running bf a mukbang, there's no way he could eat that much. He crossed a boundary when you were trying to help. Your hubby needs to stand up for you, you're supposed to be a unit and you're justifiably upset.
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  • Cappa_Cail NTA this person is not your friend and your husband needs to rethink anyone who mocks his wife over something that person destroyed.
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  • This "friend" has little to no respect for either of you. If your husband wants to lessen himself by continuing this one- sided friendship with this guy - it's on him. However, you do not let anyone who treated your home the way he did back in again.
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  • JenCanary There's no excuse for literally eating everything. in your house, ruining your pan, and then acting like nothing's wrong. You were trying to do him a favor and he took advantage. He sounds like a scammer. Makes me wonder if he
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  • ever had a place to stay in the first place or if that was his scam to get free lodgings. I mean, I'm pretty sure that is what happened. He lied to you upfront, got a free full 20 day stay where he barely paid for anything, and then ate you out of house and home and ruined your stuff on his second scam stay. NTA
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