23-year-old employee ditches 22-year-old carpooling friend, Teana, after her repeated lateness causes employee to be late for work and reprimanded by boss, when Teana discovers her ride has left, she ends their friendship: 'Says I abandoned her'

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Emma Saven
Oct 13, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

We all know that "just one sec," in girl world, translates to "I'll be ready in about an hour and a half" (give or take). However, there is a time and a place for lateness leniency, and the tik-toking time before work is not one of them, especially if you're carpooling with someone who also has a job to get to. If someone offers to drive you to work, the polite thing would be to be ready as they arrive, and if you're just that awesome, maybe even two minutes early! However, it seems as though this 22-year-old girl either has a serious case of time-blindness or simply does not care about making her friend late for work…

So, after about the third day of waiting for her and a handful of "one seconds," this generous friend decided that after 10 minutes of waiting and endless unanswered calls, they could no longer wait around. They had already been reprimanded by their boss for coming in late, and who knows what might happen if they made today another example of that. So, this friend decided to drive off, leaving the girl to catch her own ride to work. Now, when she finally stepped outside 15 minutes later and realized her ride had left… well, let's just say we're not quite sure that this friendship will make it over this roadblock!

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  • We don’t blame them. If someone had no regard for our time after being repeatedly warned about its effect on us, we’d probably leave them in their driveway, too. Sometimes, a generous favor to a friend has the potential to become more of a burden when they begin to take it for granted. This is the perfect example of that…

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    AITA for leaving my friend stranded after she showed up late for the third time?

    Hey guys I'm 23 and I drive a small Honda accord and I usually give my friend Teana, who's 22, rides to work since we live close by and start work around the same time.
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    We both agreed that she helps with gas every two weeks, and I pick her up on my way.
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    It worked fine for the first month without any problems. After the first month she started running late very frequently, Every single time I'd text her "I'm outside," and she'd take ten or fifteen minutes to come out, sometimes even longer.
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    I've tried being patient, but I kept showing up late to work because of it. My boss even noticed once which isn't a good sign.
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    So I decided to talk to her about it. Last Friday, I warned her that I'd only wait 5 minutes because | couldn't afford another late mark to risk my job.
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    When I pulled up, I texted her "here." She said "one sec." After waiting five minutes, I called but she didn't answer.
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    I waited another minute and called again and same thing, I then left. About 15 minutes later, she spammed my phone with tons of messages saying I abandoned her and made her walk in the heat, and that she missed the first part of her shift.
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    I told her I was sorry but I had already warned her multiple times. She said I should've waited because that's what friends do.
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    She hasn't spoken to me since, and one of our mutual friends said I was kind of harsh and could've just waited five extra minutes to keep the peace.
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    Now I'm wondering if I was too rigid about it. I know life happens, but I feel like she just didn't respect my time.
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    AITA for leaving without her after she made me late so many times?
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    Infamous-Purple-3131 "She hasn't spoken to me since, and one of our mutual friends said I was kind of harsh and could've just waited five extra minutes to keep the peace." Tell mutual friend to drive the inconsiderate late person to work.
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    Apart_Yesterday 1403 NTA. And your mutual friend is an idiot, too. If you'd waited an extra 5 minutes she still wouldn't be in your car because you started getting bombarded with calls and texts FIFTEEN minutes after you left!
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    ratherardent NTA. You communicated, gave her advance notice of not being able to wait for her for an undetermined amount of time, and you waited for her for a few minutes before leaving without
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    her. You're doing her a favor by driving her (yes, even with her helping you out with gas money, it's still a favor). Sh happens, people are late sometimes, but you can't sacrifice your job for her tardiness.
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    Spare-Shirt24 NTA She's made you late to work multiple times. You warned her, then you even waited past the time you said you would, and gave her multiple texts and calls.
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    RedRunner04 NTA. Friends don't let their friends get into trouble at work.
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    didifallasleep 13 NTA, and good for you. It's nice to help her out, but she's being r de and inconsiderate, and it's not being "too rigid" for setting a boundary to protect your own job and sticking to it
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    CuriousMindedAA NTA, stop being her private car service. You gave her fair warning, and she still took advantage of your kindness. She can find her own way to work.
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    International-Fee255 NTA "Friends" don't put your job at risk. Tough life lessons for Teana, but when someone is doing you a favour you don't make their life more difficult.
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    ApprehensiveBook4214 NTA for leaving her. However, I'd stop waiting. Either she's outside waiting for you or you don't stop to pick her up. That's only if you decide you're willing to continue giving her a ride. YWNBTA if you decide to stop altogether.
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