20-year-old financially supports his mom, 28-year-old brother, and 2 younger siblings for years, family turns on him when he moves to pursue an internship in London: 'They all called me selfish'

Some parents expect the world of one kid, while letting another sit on their rear end for years and years. It's one of those double standards that usually has no real explanation. Maybe the hardworking kid is naturally more predisposed to being hardworking, and the lazy kid is the same way with being lazy, but that doesn't explain the bad parenting. In that situation, the parent should let the hardworking kid do their thing and do everything possible to help the lazy kid overcome their laziness. If they push the hardworking kid to their breaking point and just the lazy kid fester in their ineptitude, they are doing both of them a disservice.

Even if they are now officially adults, kids should not have to support their parents and siblings financially. That is the parents' job, and a parent who cannot run the household without the constant labor of one of their kids is not doing their job well. It doesn't matter if they have a child willing to work day and night for their family; this expectation shouldn't be placed on someone who isn't a parent to their siblings.

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The kid in this story has done more labor for his family in 20 years than his brother has probably ever done in his 28 years. He has been financially and emotionally supporting everyone in the house since he was a teenager, and now that he finally has a chance to get out, his family is infuriated.
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Am I the bad guy for leaving my family to fend for themselves?

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