Father gets called out for avoiding kids by camping out in his car every day: 'My dad wasn't just busy... he was avoiding us'

Everybody needs time to decompress after a long day at work, and for many of us, that means sitting in our car for a few minutes before heading into the house. 

You know the feeling: you've had a loooong day at the corporate grind, or a rough shift at in the retail world, and you are so glad to be out of there. You've driving home with the radio playing, the sun shining on your face, and you're nice and cozy in that warm vehicle. It's so nice that even after you pull into your driveway, you just want to sit there and do some deep breathing and relaxing. You're in this limbo state — as soon as you leave the car, you have to do chores, or run errands, or feed your kids… But while you're in the car, you don't have those pressures. You can just chill. 

This person shared a rather interesting story from their childhood — apparently, their Dad liked to do this a little too much. They share that Dad didn't just spend a few extra minutes lounging in his car, but literal hours, every single day, sometimes until the kids went to bed. 

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  • On the one hand, this is so relatable, right? Especially if you have kids, sometimes the last thing you want is to come home from a long day of work and have these little critters crawling all over you and telling you they don't like what you made for dinner and oh, they also have a school project due tomorrow that they didn't start yet, oh and also, one of them is sneezing everywhere, and the dog needs to go outside, and now one of them dropped a plate on the floor and it shattered, and… on and on. It's endless, and it's so worth it to be a parent, but there are certainly times that make you want to pull your hair out. 

    However, part of being a parent is stepping up and being there for your kids, even when it's really difficult. Commenters had a few different takes on this: some really agreed with the Dad, while others were unhappy with the burden he placed on the rest of the family with these behaviors. 

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    I just realized my dad wasn't 'busy with work' all those years. He was sitting in his car in our driveway avoiding us.
    via @thechosenberg
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    I was visiting my parents and my mom asked me to grab something from dad's car. When I opened the passenger door, there was a whole setup in there - a small pillow, blankets, phone charger, even snacks and a water bottle.
    via @thechosenberg
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    I asked my mom about it and she got this really sad look on her face and said "oh honey, your dad has always done that. Since you kids were little."
    via @thechosenberg
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    Apparently for the last 20+ years, my dad comes home from work and just... sits in the driveway for 2-3 hours. Every single day. My mom thought I knew.
    via @thechosenberg
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    Growing up, we'd always hear his car pull up around 5:30 but he wouldn't come inside until 8 or 9. Mom would tell us "daddy's tired from work, he needs time to decompress" or "he's making important phone calls." We'd peek out the window sometimes and just see him sitting there, and we figured he was on work calls or something.
    via @thechosenberg
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    Turns out he wasn't on calls. He wasn't working. He was just... sitting there. Avoiding coming inside. Avoiding us.
    via @thechosenberg
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    My mom said she's tried talking to him about it over the years but he just says he "needs the quiet time." She's accepted it as normal at this point.
    via @thechosenberg
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    I'm sitting here thinking about all those times we wanted to show him something or tell him about our day, and he was literally right outside choosing not to come in. All those dinners that got cold waiting for him. All those times mom made excuses for why daddy wasn't there for bedtime stories or homework help.
    via @thechosenberg
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    Dad had a few defenders!

    LIZZY✶✶ @LizzyStarrrdust This man did nothing wrong
    via @LizzyStarrrdust
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    jether.exe @JetherBlaise yeah I do this, sit in my car for hours after work and I live by myself
    via @jether.exe
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    Drop Dedd @drop_dedd Doing this maybe twice a week at the most is chill and fine, but getting so used to that it's a daily thing just shows how little your family matters. It's sad to see families held together by duck tape and the "let's stay together for the kids" mentality.
    via @drop_dedd
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    WickedSmaht @theeblazenasty I understand getting away sometimes to breathe but when I get home the only thing that helps me decompress is seeing the excitement on my children's faces when I walk into the house. No better feeling in the world.
    via @theeblazenasty
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