28-year-old husband gets heated when his 25-year-old wife serves them and their 1-year-old son spaghetti for dinner: 'You know i don’t like spaghetti [why do we] we have to eat spaghetti once a month'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Oct 18, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Emotions that had been simmering boiled over faster than a pot of water and harsh words were served when this 25-year-old woman told her 28-year-old husband that she was making them and their 1-year-old spaghetti for dinner. 

Someone here is a big baby, and it's not the 1-year-old.

Everyone has their preferences when it comes to food, and some might even have dietary requirements. The former, of course, carries a lot less weight than the latter, but there are always going to be those who can't handle a modicum of spice or really taste any amount of salt in a dish. Quirks are fine and everyone is entitled to their own, but when you're not cooking, there's a certain amount of degrees outside of your preference you just have to stomach.

The same goes for chores and labor of the household in general. If you aren't doing the tasks yourself, it stands to reason that if things are getting done, you shouldn't be complaining about how they're getting done. Of course, if someone is intentionally doing things poorly in a "weaponized incompetence" type of manner.

It would be one thing if this husband couldn't eat red sauce for a legitimate reason. But 28 years is a little old to be throwing your toys out of the cot because you don't like something that's being prepared for dinner. It's not like what's being offered is something completely out of left field, either. Spaghetti is kind of one of the de facto household meals of the modern family. 

Pasta with red sauce is about as plain as it gets, and at a certain point, when all is laid out on the (dinner) table, you have to wonder if pasta sauce is even really the issue here at all.

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    "AITA For making “spaghetti” knowing my fiancé doesn’t like it"

    Ok so for starters I'm (25f) cooking tonight for my fiance (28M) we've been together 6 years and i cook the majority of our meals he can cook he does cook but it's only when I'm too sick or tired to do it or when it's a meal he really enjoys cooking. Well
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    he hates red sauce and spaghetti noodles and me and my son (1M) loves spaghetti i grew up on it it's one of my favorite meals and it stretches. Well here's the problem i just got home and asked him to take out chicken Parmesan cutlet for me he asks what am i make I'm like chicken Parmesan. He's like no shit so I'm like what's the confusion that's what I'm making.
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    He's like are you making it with pasta, spaghetti noodles, on a sandwich? I'm like pasta we discussed this in the grocery store when we bought them days ago. So he's mad like you know i don't like spaghetti how come we have to eat spaghetti once a month and you know i hate it it's like you not cooking for your man then goes on
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    to say we can't just add fish to the list of things to cook because i don't eat seafood but i told him you're welcome to buy and cook fish whenever you like i don't have to eat it he's like but i can't cook it for dinner I'm like yes you can I'll eat something else. And if you don't want chicken Parmesan then
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    eat yours with bread or you can cook dinner yourself. He got upset and walked out the house to go to the store but this is something that comes up all the time in our house. I love it my son loves it so i make it and if you want something else eat something else. i hate lasagna hated it my whole life my aunt growing up would use 80% of her
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    sauce to make lasagna and told me if i was hungry she left me some sauce and to make my own spaghetti noodles. So i don't understand why if you don't want the noodles do i have to make a whole separate meal for you to eat so chat Aita?
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    Ok so for starters I'm (25f) cooking tonight for my fiance (28M) we've been together 6 years and i cook the majority of our meals he can cook he does cook but it's only when I'm too sick or tired to do it or when it's a meal he really enjoys cooking. Well
    via Queen_ofFlies
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    he hates red sauce and spaghetti noodles and me and my son (1M) loves spaghetti i grew up on it it's one of my favorite meals and it stretches. Well here's the problem i just got home and asked him to take out chicken Parmesan cutlet for me he asks what am i make I'm like chicken Parmesan. He's like no shit so I'm like what's the confusion that's what I'm making.
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    He's like are you making it with pasta, spaghetti noodles, on a sandwich? I'm like pasta we discussed this in the grocery store when we bought them days ago. So he's mad like you know i don't like spaghetti how come we have to eat spaghetti once a month and you know i hate it it's like you not cooking for your man then goes on
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    to say we can't just add fish to the list of things to cook because i don't eat seafood but i told him you're welcome to buy and cook fish whenever you like i don't have to eat it he's like but i can't cook it for dinner I'm like yes you can I'll eat something else. And if you don't want chicken Parmesan then
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    eat yours with bread or you can cook dinner yourself. He got upset and walked out the house to go to the store but this is something that comes up all the time in our house. I love it my son loves it so i make it and if you want something else eat something else. i hate lasagna hated it my whole life my aunt growing up would use 80% of her
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    sauce to make lasagna and told me if i was hungry she left me some sauce and to make my own spaghetti noodles. So i don't understand why if you don't want the noodles do i have to make a whole separate meal for you to eat so chat Aita?
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    SmartSinner NTA but this sounds like one of those recurring couple fights that's not really about spaghetti. It's about control and compromise. You're already offering options, he just doesn't like that you won't bend completely
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    East-Action8811 He can make his own damn meals is what I'd tell him.
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    United-Manner20 NTA but this fight isn't about spaghetti. Your glossing over the fact that he said cooking for your man. He is a grown adult. They can cook his own meal if he doesn't want what you're making. It is not your responsibility to cook his meals to his liking. Your son is learning how to be a man from this person. His views on how you should treat a wife and his views on what a partnership should look like our shaping how you're raising your son.
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    A man holding a fork in one hand and his phone in the other eats a plate of spaghetti
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    Background-Key-1088 NTA. Your fiancé sounds like a child. Think long and hard about whether you really want to marry this guy.
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    1 Kflowers God, this sounds exhausting. Is your fiance your son's father? If so that complicates things, but IMO the bottom line is, if an adult partner doesn't like what you cooked, they can cook something else they like better. No, you're ΝΤΑ.
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    OkManufacturer 767 Has he always been so insufferable? And immature? NTA
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    CoDaDeyLove Two out of three people in the household love spaghetti. He can have a sandwich. My partner loves grilled mackeral and I hate it. He often cooks some just for himself and I make something else. I agree that this argument is rooted in something deeper. He wants everything his way and isn't being flexible. If you want to make spaghetti for yourself and your child, your fiance can fix something else. Even a peanut butter sandwich. He needs to grow up.
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    Maleficent_Scale_296 Like life isn't hard enough without some whining man child. I'll bet he expects intimacy after this behavior too. That must be hot.
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    Desperate ToNotDream It's not about the spaghetti. It's about you not catering to his whims like he demands
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    SarcasticAnd My daughter hates red sauce too. When I make spaghetti noodles, she puts butter, garlic and parm on hers, all by herself. She is 11. NTA. Your bf is acting less mature than my literal child.
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