15-year-old made cilantro rice for family dinner, despite her 16-year-old sister being severely allergic to cilantro: 'Everyone else in the family likes cilantro. I don’t see why you can’t just eat something else if you don’t want to at least try it'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Oct 18, 2025 8:00 AM EDT

She's either stupid or malicious, and I'd bet my hat on the latter.

Allergies are not to be messed with, especially severe ones. One time when I was working as a cashier at a Chinese restaurant, a dude called in to order for pickup and said his wife was highly allergic to soy. He asked us to please make sure there was no soy in the meal because she would have to go to the ER if she consumed any. I put "Soy Allergy" on the order like 10 times because he was so urgent about it. An hour later, we got a call saying that she had broken out in hives and was going to the ER because of our negligence. That is probably in the top 2 worst things I've ever done, but there are two obvious scapegoats. The people working in the kitchen should have said that it was impossible to make food at our restaurant that hadn't been cross-contaminated with soy. Also, what kind of person with a severe soy allergy orders thinks that ordering from a seedy Chinese restaurant is a good idea? Honestly, I just hope that woman is okay and that she never had an allergic reaction ever again. 

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  • The sister in this story appears to be extremely malicious with her older sister's allergy. She intentionally cooked a meal with the allergen in it, and got angry when her sister wouldn't even try it. A lot of people believe her younger sister is doing this maliciously, and I'm inclined to agree.

  • Sister made a dish with something I'm deathly allergic to and I refused to eat anything she made.

    My sister(15) made dinner for the whole family and one of the dishes she made had a ton of cilantro. I(16) am deathly allergic to it, even a small amount has my lungs closing and causes severe nausea and dizziness. Now, onto what happened.
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  • Yesterday, while I was working on classwork, I noticed my sister cooking. I asked her what she was making because it involved rice, and she usually doesn't like to cook rice, so I was curious. She replied that she was making dinner and told me to leave her alone. I don't like to press issues that don't seem like a problem, so I let it go and went back to work.
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  • When it was time to eat, I went to check out the food and saw that it was a stir-fry with a side of cilantro rice. The smell of the cilantro made me feel nauseous. I asked her why she made cilantro rice, knowing I can't eat it, and she said, "Everyone else in the family likes cilantro. I don't see why you can't just eat something else if you don't want to at least try it."
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  • I was shocked. I told her I can't eat anything with cilantro, and if she had told me what she was planning to make, I could've prepared something else for myself. But by then, it was too late-I follow a strict schedule set by my doctor due to other medical issues.
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  • I looked around the kitchen to see if the stir-fry might be safe for me to eat, but I noticed specks of rice mixed in from using the same spatula during cooking. I was upset that I couldn't eat any of the food, but I didn't want to make a scene. I just grabbed an apple and two oranges, figuring they'd be enough to get me through the night.
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  • My sister was livid. She started yelling about how I "didn't appreciate how much effort she put into dinner" and how I "could at least try a bite of what she made." Our parents overheard and asked what was going on. I
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  • explained that she had made a dish with cilantro, and since there was only one spatula used for both the rice and the stir-fry, I didn't want to risk cross- contamination. I told them I was just grabbing a snack instead.
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  • Dad said he understood, but Mom asked if I was sure I couldn't at least try the stir-fry, saying she didn't think it had any cilantro in it. I pointed to the few grains of rice in the pan and explained that it did. She backed down.
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  • My sister insisted that such a small amount wouldn't hurt me and accused me of being spiteful. I told her I wasn't going to risk my health just to make her happy -especially since she's the one. who always complains about how I'm "sick all the time." I said I didn't understand why she'd want to push me to eat something that could make me sick for days.
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  • I am just wondering if I went about this the wrong way or if I should have just tried the food like she wanted. I don't like making people mad and just wanted to avoid getting sick. Did I overreact?
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  • Connect-Thought2029 Protect yourself, nobody should force you to do something that will harm you. Your sister is nuts, I would distance myself from her
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  • RainbowsintheUK Also, why there was cilandro in the house in the first place? Did sis bought it for her dish?
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  • Mama_B_tired Right??? Usually, when someone in your house has such a severe allergy, that food isn't allowed in the house because of cross contamination. Some people with peanut allergies can die from the oils on a spoon or water fountain handle, or kissing someone who has eaten the food. If it really is deathly allergic, why play with your sisters life. Eat the Cilantro when your out of the house. Don't put a person you love in that kind of danger. It sounds like the whole family needs a kitche
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  • OP, you did nothing wrong. You didn't make a scene and you found something to feed yourself. Your sister is young and didn't think everything through, then got butt hurt. Your mom, however, should know better!!
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  • OriginalParticle Your sister either doesn't understand what an allergy is (and is thinking this is an excuse for dislike) or she's a spiteful bitch who is jealous and thinks because you have health problems you get more attention than her. Either way, you need to have a talk with your parents about this, and they need to address it with her. This is not a you thing, it's a three of them thing. It honestly
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  • sounds like she intentionally wanted you to eat it, thinking you'd be fine and she could go "see! OP's taking it!" Again, sounding like a jealousy thing. Only your parents can address this with her though, you would only make it worse. Absolutely never risk your health for someone else's feelings.
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