Eldest Golden Child says his sister-in-law isn't "real family," so the youngest brother protects his wife and cancels the family vacation: 'This isn't the first time he's said something like that'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Oct 20, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Quit treating my wife like a plus-one!

A 33-year-old and his 38-year-old brother always had miniature squabbles growing up, but when the eldest always proved to be the Golden Child with Mom and Dad, his arrogance and his habit of making unsavory jokes grew stronger. Finally, after years of making disrespectful comments about his younger brother's wife, the eldest was held accountable. The younger brother refused to attend the family vacation, canceling plans because his brother said his wife wasn't considered "real family" and would be banished to the random kids' room in the cabin. 

And with that final toxic comment, the eldest was put in his place. 

Perhaps next time he decides to belittle his sister-in-law, he'll discover that family is more than just genetic makeup, and his brother will always choose his loving wife over his snide older brother. 

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  • AITJ for canceling a family vacation after my brother said my wife wasn't "really family"?
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  • My wife (32F) and I (35M) were supposed to go on a weeklong family trip that my parents planned. My brother (38M) and his wife are also going.
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  • In our family group chat, we were talking about booking rooms, and my brother joked, "Well, we'll get the family suite, and your plus-one can stay with the kids."
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  • My wife saw that and asked what he meant. He replied, "Chill, I was joking. You're not blood, you know what I mean." Everyone else kind of laughed it off.
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  • I said that was rude, and my mom tried to smooth it over with, "He's just teasing like he always does." But this isn't the first time he's said something like that, he's made similar "you're not real family" comments before.
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  • I told my parents that if they're not going to call him out, we're not going. Now everyone's calling me dramatic for canceling over a "harmless joke." AITJ for standing up for my wife?
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  • Golden Children grow up with a certain demeanor. Oftentimes, they're arrogant, cruel, and overconfident, simply because they've never known disappointment or punishment in the family. Luckily, this younger sibling finally got a chance to let his brother know that he wasn't acting appropriately, putting his wife first and forging a new family of his own—without the negative influence of his toxic brother.

  • Lexie D1967 Why is your wife not real blood family & his wife is? Or did he marry a cousin in which case eewwwww?
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  • kalestuffedlamb ⚫ I had this happen at my ex-husband's side of the family reunion. I had just had our first child. When they took pictures I was left out because "I was not family". My husband
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  • could and infant daughter could be in the pictures but not me. I couldn't figure that out, my MIL was in the family by marriage just like I was. It
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  • was weird and I never went back (it was a 4+ hr. drive to get there in the first place). My ex-in laws have now passed and I just found out about 4 years ago that my MIL
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  • and FIL were second cousins. That's not illegal, but it explained how my MIL was SO involved with EVERYONE. It was because she was related to everyone on BOTH SIDES!!!
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  • Score Desperate6... If your family can't treat your wife as equal family after marriage, that's their loss. Jokes stop being funny when they're repeated disrespect. You drew a line they should've drawn years ago.
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  • DanaMarie75038. NTJ. Your brother is obviously jealous of your relationship and he is being a little b*tch to your wife. Good job on protecting your wife from his toxic jokes he meant.
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  • megamum2000. So OP's wife isn't family but brother's wife is? In my family the "in-laws" call themselves "the outlaws" and jokingly threaten to band together against us! That being said
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  • NO one is ever made to feel like they're not family. OP's brother owes an apology to SIL and to be honest I'd still not go on vacation with them'
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  • CarryOk3080. Ntj keep your wife far away from these awful people. If you don't stand with your wife you stand with the abusive people. I gather you aren't the golden child but your brother is?
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