27-year-old birthday boy takes credit for bankrolling a 4-day vacation with friends, gets called out when his girlfriend exposes his lie to everyone: 'I did 90% of the planning, booked the Airbnb, coordinated rides, and paid the deposit'

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  • Woman sitting at a table with her friends for stay at home brunch
  • AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's birthday trip after he told everyone I was "just a guest"?
  • So my (27F) boyfriend (29M) and I planned a 4-day trip for his 30th birthday with his closest friends (8 people total). I did 90% of the planning, booked the Airbnb,
  • coordinated rides, and even paid the deposit upfront because I have the better credit card.
  • He said he'd pay me back for half later, and his friends would send their shares once I sent the total. Cool.
  • Fast forward to the trip. Everyone's having fun... until the first dinner. The waitress asked if we were celebrating something, and my boyfriend loudly said, "Yeah! My birthday trip, I paid for everyone to be here!"
  • Everyone clapped. Meanwhile, I nearly choked on my drink. Later, I asked him why he said that, and he goes, "It's just easier to say that. Don't make it weird."
  • I let it go until the next day when one of his friends pulled me aside and said, "You're so lucky to have a guy who treats his girlfriend and friends like this. Not many would pay for a whole trip."
  • At that point, I'd had enough. When it came time to settle up for activities, I sent everyone my full invoice (with receipts and payment breakdowns).
  • They were shocked, apparently, he'd told them I was "tagging along for free" because I "don't make as much."
  • They all Venmo'd me immediately, except him. When we got home, I told him I wouldn't accept his portion because "apparently, you paid for everything." He said I was being petty and "embarrassing him in front of his friends."
  • So Reddit, AITA for not letting him pay me back and basically turning his lie into a lesson?
  • The... NTA. He wanted to make himself look big by making you look small. Think long and hard about that. How much of your life do you want to spend living in that dynamic? Because I guarantee you that nonsense will appear again and again.
  • Up_and_down_and_ NTA! He honestly sounds like such an ungrateful POS! He was embarrassing himself in front of his friends with him trying to big note himself and lie about sh*t! What a wanker.
  • OkManufacturer767 . I don't understand how not letting him pay is a lesson. Him actually paying would be the lesson.
  • Specialist_Wind_64... NTA but take the money he owes you and leave. Let him find a girl who wants to be a doormat so he can pretend to be a big spender. And leave before his broke a$$ drags down your credit.
  • runlikeitsdisne I think YTA to yourself. You should have had him pay you the full amount for BOTH of you to actually make him live his lie. Technically, he should even give you more for your "services" as a travel agent. That's a significant amount of time.

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