'I robbed her of a key moment': Man babysits lifelong friend's toddler, succeeds in trick to get her to take first steps, he excitedly captures the moment, sending video to the first-time parents, mother blames friend for making them miss milestone

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  • Baby taking her first steps
  • So I'm friends with this guy that I've known since kindergarten. He got married some years ago and now him and his wife have a little baby girl and she's currently at toddler age.
  • I come over often enough that I'm used to seeing the little bugger and she's great.
  • I don't have any other little kids from family or anything in my life so it's been great seeing a little human grow.
  • Every once in a blue moon they ask me to watch her for a few hours while my friend and his wife get some date time or whatver they need to do.
  • So I was hanging out with her and I know that they've been trying to get her to take her first steps.
  • I read about a trick where if you make them hold something then they will walk without holding onto a surface.
  • So I gave her a toy and filmed it and it worked! I sent the video to them and my friend didn't care, he was just happy but his wife was pissed!
  • Mother crying
  • She was mad at me that they weren't there for that big moment. I don't have the type of relationsbio with her where I can have a deep 1 on 1 with her but I talked to my friend about it and he's not upset with me but his wife still is.
  • She thinks I robbed her if a key moment. I did het it on film but I get what she's saying.
  • I had no malicious intent but was I the AH for getting the toddler to take those first steps?
  • I hi estoy didn't think the trick would work but it did.
  • keesouth YTA for doing it on purpose and then sending them video. Kids often have their first steps when they are in daycare and the teachers purposely don't tell the parents so when they finally see their kid walk they think it's the first time. You purposely took that moment from them.
  • FakeGamer2 OP Dang so ironically it was me trying to be considerate and capturing the moment in video which led to robbing them of the moment. I should've just kept my mouth shut and pretend like it didn't happen which didn't occur to me at the time. I'll apologize again to her
  • Indica Endeavor YTA. Youre not the asshole for making the baby walk, youre the asshole for filming it and sending it to the parents. Thats a special moment for them and you knew it or why else would you film it and send it.
  • FakeGamer2 OP I filmed it cause I know she's been close to walking for some time now and I just got too excited to share the moment. I'm not experienced with kids so I stupidly missed that it was an option to just not tell them and wait till they got home to show them in person. My excitement got the better of me and now I feel really guilty. Idk how to make it up to my friends wife but I'll keep apologizing
  • Woman being comforted by man
  • thewineyourewith I was prepared to say NT A because usually there's not much you can do about a baby having a first whatever on your watch. If the baby just got up and took a step on her own, that's solidly NTA.
  • But YTA for trying a new technique to get baby to walk without checking with the parents first. They asked you to watch baby not hold a personal training session with her. I think you overstepped.
  • IlumidoraFae YTA for specifically trying to get the kid to walk while the parents weren't around. If the kid happened to walk on its own with you present, that would be one thing. The reality is, you stole a moment from those parents that they will never get back and that's not cool.
  • cinnamonoblivion I think YTA. Walking is a big milestone for toddlers and it's usually a big deal for the parents to get to see it and experience it, and I find it hard to believe you don't know that. You may have thought the trick wouldn't work, but you were still deliberately trying to get the kid to walk when her parents weren't there to see her take her first steps.
  • ThatRohanKid Soft yet stern YTA. Time to start learning when lies are appropriate! I get that your intentions. were good in filming and sending the video, but when it comes to a baby's firsts, that's for the parents alone. If it does happen in front of you, no it did not.
  • Complex Activity 1990 YTA. It's an unwritten rule that if you see a toddler take their first steps without the parents- no you didn't.
  • Xylophone 1904 YTA because everyone knows if you see a milestone before the parents then you simply pretend you didn't. When the kid does it again with their parents, the parents will think it's the first time. You didn't need to send them the video.
  • Frost Quail_230 YTA. You don't video that and you never mention it if that happens. You were being malicious.

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