20-year-old New York City woman demands her 25-year-old boyfriend "take her" trick-or-treating for Halloween, starts an argument when he refuses: 'I suggested another very popular event [...] but she is adamant [about] trick-or-treating'

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    "AITA for not wanting to take my 20 yr old GF trick or treating as a 25 yr old man"

    Title pretty much says it all. It's last second and neither of us really have any elaborate costumes or anything, probably just going to do some makeup and decorate cardboard props. Personally not super comfortable with the idea because while she's pretty small and is cute enough to get a pass, I'm a big dude and the idea of someone opening their door to me and no children just sounds humiliating.
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    A young woman dressed in a cheetah costume in the New York subway
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    I don't want to be a buzzkill and I suggested us going to another very popular event where we can still do costumes and be out for the night, but she is adamant on trick-or- treating specifically. She's not forcing me or anything but whats the AITA opinion here on me not wanting to do that at 25. Should I loosen up or is it ridiculous for her to even ask me? I don't know. I've still got time to go back on my decision but I can't make heads or tails of it. I certainly feel guilty for saying no bu
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    In summary: turned down the only thing my girlfriend wanted to do for Halloween because I thought it would be humiliating for me. might make me an asshole because many people share the opinion that age is irrelevant on these sorts of things, and that I should be more open- minded. I think the night belongs to
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    the children, and that adults/older teenagers are better off going to parties or parades or handing out candy to make it more enjoyable (and less intimidating) for the young ones. I am in NYC and there is a fair amount of halloween crime that goes on here so I take no personal offense to people being concerned about me at first glance.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I turned down the only thing my girlfriend wanted to do for Halloween because I thought it would be humiliating for me. I think that might make me an asshole because many people share the opinion that age is irrelevant on these sorts of things,
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    and that I should be more open- minded. I think they might be the asshole because I think the night belongs to the children, and that adults/older teenagers are better off going to parties or parades or handing out candy to make it more enjoyable (and less intimidating) for the young ones.
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    A young woman hangs her head while holding a carved pumpkin jack o' lantern
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    catskilkid Trick or treating at houses is for children. Obviously its fun to dress up and take your kids (or family or close friends) BUT having a 20yo be the REASON you are going house to house for free candy is immature and it cheapens the event for the kids. Want to go to a fun Halloween Party for adults and there will be candy.... GREAT. But leave the kids to be kids. Your GF sounds VERY immature to be pushing this WITHOUT a child of significance in tow. NTA
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    Few_Acadia7686 Let her go trick or treating while you stand back on the sidewalk and pretend to be her parent. Make it weird all around!
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    obtusewisdom Trick or treating is for kids. If you're out of high school, time to do other things that don't involve scamming candy you can afford to get yourself. I would be super pissed if I ran out of candy for kids because a bunch of adults were trick or treating.
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    hollowl0g1c NTA. This is weird. She's 20, she should not be trick or treating. And neither should you. Go to a party like normal 20-somethings
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    grammarlysucksass NTA. This might be the European in me and maybe I'm hating outside the club but I think trick or treating for adults is bizarre. Halloween should be fun for both of you and I feel like there are plenty of fun activities you can compromise with that don't involve grown adults begging for candy. If she's seriously that desperate surely she has a friend she can go with rather than forcing you into it.

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