Sister demands sibling give their college fund to her daughter after they get a scholarship, sibling refuses, uses the money for housing and bills instead: ‘I have been saving up for years’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Nov 2, 2025 5:00 PM EST

Ideally, we should all save money for different occasions in our lives. Whether it's school, a car, a wedding, or a house, money is always going to be needed. The more you plan and save for different stages of life, the better.

If you save up money for one occasion, and you end up using it for something else, that is for you and only you to decide. Just because you may not need the money for the initial purpose doesn't mean you don't need it at all. 

That is a reminder that the sister in the story below desperately needs.

Her parents never saved up any money for her sibling's higher education, so the sibling did the smart thing and saved up for themselves. For six years, they worked odd jobs and saved every penny to afford going to college. 

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  • Recently, they got a scholarship, and the college fund they set up needed a different purpose. The sister demanded that the money be given to her daughter's college fund. But the sibling, the actual person who worked for that money, refuses to give their college fund to someone else, even if they are family…

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    Little girl collecting money for college
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    AITA for refusing to give my college fund to my nephew after my sister found out about it?

    Hi! For the past 6 years I have been working on different jobs in my shithole of a country in order to save up and get a real education and a proper job later.
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    My parents were always promising to pay for it but they never did.. At some point I managed to get a scholarship and I use saved money for housing and other bills and spendings.
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    I have a sister and she has a son. She was always complaining how no one ever helped her with money (just like me) but unlike her I wasn't mentioning it that much.
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    I have never mentioned the fund but my parents have accidentally revealed it to the sister at the latest family gathering.
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    Then my sister immediately turns to me and asks to donate the remaining money to her and her child, saying I could move in back with my parents.
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    My goddamn parents agree with her because "family helps family". I obviously refused because I have been saving up for years and now I am going to need it.
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    Then my sister and parents just turn red, accusing me of being a selfish prick. I quickly fled the family gathering without asking other family members what do they think about it but I really don't know if I am doing something incorrect or their reaction was the wrong?
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    Fun-Satisfaction2214 NTA. Why didn't family help you? Or are you only family when it is convenient?
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    OP SigmaCreeper1488 My grandparents and uncle usually support my parents
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    StrippinChicken I would stop calling it a college fund, because really it sounds like it's your lifesavings. They want you to give up all of your hard earned lifesavings to help them out. NTA. They are TA. It wouldve been fine for them to ask for SOME help, but to demand all of your savings is incredibly selfish. If family is supposed to help family, why are they trying to hurt you?
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    Hippopotasaurus-Rex Why aren't your parents giving your sister, their own child, money? They can all pound sand. Nta.
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    readergirl35 Your sister and her son can move back in with your parents if she can't make ends meet on her own. Your parents can give her their savings if they want her to have help so badly. If you had no need of it then you could help her if you wanted it but as it is you do need it. When your schooling is done you will need to establish yourself and you'll need funds to do it. I don't believe your sister or your parents will help you when you need it so you have to safeguard that money. Be bl
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    littlewitten It's not a college fund. It's your life savings for taking care of yourself. Your parents can help your sister if they feel so inclined to. Nephew should be told the truth that it's not money that you can give away without hurting yourself. He should not want to hurt his family.
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    EmploymentLanky9544 >"family helps family" That old chestnut, pulled out by family opportunists whenever they want something. It's pure emotional extortion. It's your money, your sacrifice, and your future. No one gets to derail that. Your sister and your parents are fully able to scrimp and save like you did, to make and achieve their own goals. NTA
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    hamplake Do not ask other family members for their opinion as it is none of their business what you do with your money. Stay the course. Keep the money. You earned it. Parents and sister give you grief? When the conversation comes up, just get up and walk away. If there are phone calls about it, hang up. Social media? Block them. Life is about choices. Do not let someone guilt you into making a bad one. ΝΤΑ.
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    curiousblondwonders NTA you saved your money. You dont need to give it to anyone. Your sister sounds entitled and selfish so youre doing the right thing. And when they say "BUT FaMiLy!!" You say "I'll let them know you want to donate to the college fund!"
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    Remarkable Owl_8412 I am not saying that your story isn't true but in all my life I have never heard the phrase "family helps family" until I got into Reddit I mean do people really say that because it seams to pop up on a lot of posts all the time
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    Electronic_Farm_4633 Don't talk money with family. Anyone asks how much I make I immediately say how much do you weigh? No one ask me anymore.
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    couple counting money
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