Woman discovers 25-year-old brother used her credit card to pay a $1,200 wedding venue deposit without permission, so she freezes the card, causing venue to cancel booking, sparking major backlash from nearly-wed couple: '[Said] I sabotaged his wedding'

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Emma Saven
Nov 4, 2025 7:00 AM EST

Imagine your brother offering to book your overseas flight for you, with your credit card, of course (because how many younger brothers are that nice!), and then suddenly weeks later, you notice a random amount of $1,200 coming off your account. Most of us would panic, assuming that it must be fraud! As did this 23-year-old big sister, in a moment of worry, she froze her credit card to make sure that no more random bursts of money could pour out…Until she noticed something extremely strange…Her brother's name on the receipt just made no sense. So she called him up that afternoon, looking for answers… almost seconds later, she was left absolutely baffled by his response. 

He needed to pay the deposit on his wedding venue, and they needed a credit card on the spot: an explanation given in a tone that expressed such casualness and lack of understanding towards her "dramatic" reaction…Like what? If the couple needed a credit card, why on earth would they not use their own? But this is where the story hits its juicy peak. Due to the freezing of the credit card, the wedding venue cancelled their booking after claiming the payment had bounced, leaving the couple in shambles. 

Now, can you guess who they are blaming for 'sabotaging' the happiest day of their lives? We think you can. 

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  • We're just glad they didn't use her credit card to pay for the caterer or floral arrangement, too… because it would no longer be a wedding day, but solely a day. The fact that the couple is playing the victim is the most surprising, as they barely even bothered to give her a timeframe in which they were planning to ‘repay’ her. Will these siblings be able to make it through this hiccup, or are we (also) going to have to cross Sister's Wedding Speech off the list of things that won't be happening at the wedding…?

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  • AITJ for refusing to cover my brother’s wedding deposit after he used my credit card without asking?

    Last year, I (28F) let my younger brother (25M) use my credit card once to book plane tickets because his debit card was being weird.
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  • He paid me back immediately, no problem. So when I noticed a $1,200 charge from a wedding venue last month, I thought it was fraud, until I saw the receipt had his name on it.
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  • I called him, and he said he used my card because "they required a card right away" and "he didn't want to miss the date.” He said he planned to pay me back "once his next paycheck clears," but that was three weeks ago.
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  • I froze the card, canceled the transaction with the bank, and the venue called him saying the payment bounced.
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  • Now he's furious, saying I "sabotaged" his wedding and made him look bad in front of his fiancée.
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  • My parents are pressuring me to just "let it slide" because "he's stressed and didn't mean harm." I told them flat out: if you use my card without permission, that's theft.
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  • Now everyone's calling me dramatic and "vindictive over family." AITJ for not just letting it go?
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  • Ruebee90 NTJ! Any family who disagrees can let him use their credit card.
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  • Abbreviations Ok7954 What he did is illegal so obviously NTJ, but you need to really just cancel your cards and stop giving the info to your brother.
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  • LdiJ46 Sad as it is, you absolutely did the right thing. If he had asked your permission you might have said yes, but he never gave you the chance. It is best to nip that kind of behavior in the bud. If your parents want him to have that so bad, let them pay for it.
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  • Pink-Unicorndust1 NTA!!! Stand your ground.
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  • Sea_Roof3637 Tell them if they want dramatic and vindictive you'll go to the police for fraud. NTJ
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  • darrenwiseatvan If your brother was innocently just trying to save something he would've used that same phone and called you saying this is what I've done and here's why and you'll be paid by . Instead you read it on your statement and
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  • piece it together. After being caught comes the explanation and then he doesn't follow through with what he says he'll do. Tell your parents the whole family should be happy you don't press charges on the little cretin
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  • Catblue3291 It's called stealing. NTJ.
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  • TinyZookeepergame403 Tell your parents to give the thief the money, their son.
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  • Lillypillia He straight-up stole from you. "Didn't mean harm" doesn't make it okay. If he can't respect your money now, imagine what he'll pull later. You did the right thing freezing that card
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  • Flat-Succotash 5369 "Oh, what's the big deal?" The big deal is, it's theft, family or not. The bigger deal is, the brother didn't call & ask to use the card. "They needed a deposit immediately or we would've lost the date!" Oh. I see. But...you didn't call to tell me
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  • Big-Deer1491 NTJ, of he can't pay for his own wedding then how's he going to afford to be an adult.
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  • afterward, either. I had to notice it later. You thought you could use my card, I wouldn't notice until later and I would let it slide because faaaaaaamily? Picture Jackie Gleason homina-homina-homina-ing here. NTJ, OP...not by far.
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  • Winter_Cell_3795 Then mom and dad can book using their credit card.
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