Woman storms out of date when mom makes comment on her weight and career path as an artist, the internet assures her she did the right thing after she questions if she was too sensitive: 'I think it's a red flag when a woman doesn't want kids'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Nov 6, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Men can really outdo themselves these days. In this story, the protagonist is a woman on a first date with someone she met online. He immediately tells her that he usually goes for smaller women, immediately negging her about her weight. She's uncomfortable, but continues the date, but feels that the energy is lost and things are off. Then he attacks her career choice as an artist. He says she should do something that's more practical and profitable. Strike number 2. Then, the cherry on top was when he told her he things it's a red flag for a woman to not want children. This is when she pays for her portion, and leaves the restaurant. I have a friend who's dating a guy who does basically all the same things, but worse. 

Women these days struggle with dating, and wondering where the men get the nerve to talk to other people in that way. Who makes comments on someone's weight on a first date??

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    AITAH for walking out of a date?

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    I met a guy online and we met up in person yesterday. We decided to go out to eat, and while we are waiting for the food, he said I'm
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    “bigger than what he usually prefers". And at that moment I'm thinking "if I'm not your preference, why did you entertain
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    a date with me?". My face fell and he said "I didn't mean anything by it, I think you're pretty". We
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    kept talking, but the vibes were already off.
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    He asked what I liked to do, and I told him art is my passion, that I love to draw/paint and that i hope to be lucky enough to
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    exhibit work in prestigious galleries in the future. To that he responded "don't you think it's wiser to focus on a more practical
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    line of work? Art is cool and everything but most people in it don't go far. At least not until after they die" to which I reply
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    that society devaluing artists is why the world is quite literally losing color and everything is grey and beige
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    Then as the conversation progressed, he asks if I'd like a family in the future. I say I don't mind getting married if I find a
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    decent person but I don't want kids. He said "why wouldn't you want kids? I think it's a red flag when a woman doesn't like kids".
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    At that point i said "you know what, we're not compatible", then asked for the check and a to-go plate, paid for my food and
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    walked out. When I got home i get a text from him saying "I'm sorry if I offended you. Was it the weight comment? I didn't think
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    you'd be so sensitive". I blocked him but a little voice in my head is making me wonder if I am in fact being too sensitive. AITAH?
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    Traveling-Techie First date audition. = Theoretically you were seeing him at his absolute best. NTA
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    RydersUp Hell no. That guy sounds like a real asshole. Good for you for walking out.
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    janus 1981 NTA. Three strikes and now he's out.
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    1. The weight comment. 2. Devaluing artists. 3. Kid incompatibility. Bye Felicia!
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    Less_Introduction598 NTA. I went in a date with a guy once. We met online, he seemed nice enough. But awkwardly, the entire date,
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    he compared me to his ex. It was awful. I politely excused myself and left. My best. friend was at a bar down the
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    street, so I went there to have a drink and laugh it off with her. Only for him to
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    walk in and sit down with us and try and salvage the date. 06
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