Entitled Thanksgiving guest is late to dinner and criticizes his friend's wife's cooking, wife refuses to take his criticism this year: ‘"If I have to slam the pie in his face... I will"’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Nov 24, 2025 3:00 PM EST

Everyone wants to be a critic, even those who have no ground to stand on in their critique and lack the expertise to pass judgment.

We all know the deal: A Thanksgiving meal is probably one of the most stressful feasts to cook, whether you're a rookie chef whose most complicated meal is Kraft Mac n' Cheese or you're a wizard cook who knows how to chop an onion in less than 15 seconds. When you're finally finished—when that turkey is browned and ready to be carved—a weight is lifted off of your shoulders, and you can finally breathe again.

That is, until you hear someone (who probably shouldn't have been invited) boasting about how their girlfriend is a better cook than you'll ever be. Who invited this person in the first place?! Oh, that's right—your spouse.

In this next story, a woman complains about last year's Thanksgiving debacle and how her husband's impolite friend made a point to criticize her cooking and compare it to his girlfriend's skills. Now, this year, you're not having it. He can come, but he can't get mad when he gets a taste of some pumpkin pie before the appetizers roll out. Scroll to read.

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    "AITAH for telling my husband his friend can come to Thanksgiving but I'm not dealing with his B*"

    So my husband has this friend, let's call him Craig. The first time we invited Craig over for a holiday was Thanksgiving a few years ago.
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    He said he wanted to wash his hands before dinner but didn't use the bathroom, instead he went to the kitchen and proceeded to complain about how the sink was full of dishes and why hadn't I cleaned them yet (Despite the fact I had made an entire Thanksgiving meal).
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    My husband said he was probably joking and I shouldn't have taken it so personally. For Easter my husband invited him again and Craig offered to bring a pie.
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    I told him that I was already planning on making two desserts (carrot cake and cheesecake stuffed strawberries) and since my husband and I were trying to lose weight I really didn't want an extra dessert floating around.
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    So he offered to bring rolls instead. joked that if he didn't bringKing Hawaiian Sweet rolls he wouldn't be allowed inside.
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    So on Easter I told him dinner would be served at 5. 5 o'clock came and no Craig.
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    5:30 still not Craig but we decide to eat. 6 no Craig and we move on to dessert.
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    6:30 we finished eating and decided to relax in the living room. 7 Craig finally shows up with his girlfriend and I see he brought King Hawaiian Butter rolls.
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    As this point I didn't really care since I already ate dinner without a roll but what really got me was he brought the pie.
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    So Craig goes to wash his hands and can't help but make a comment about the dishes in my sink.
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    He then complains that my food is nowhere as good as his girlfriends, probably had something to do with the fact that the food was now cold.
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    When he was ready to leave i told him not to forget his pie and he mentioned that he didn't like sweets and we could keep it.
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    Now Thanksgiving is coming again and my husband wants to invite him. I said "Fine, but I'm not dealing with his BS this time.
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    The first condescending comment he makes he can walk straight out and if I have to slam the pie in his face to get him to take it then I will." My husband is telling me that I'm taking everything out of context but I think showing up 2 hours late and being rude to the host is pretty clear.
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    Am I the Asshole?
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    PerspectiveKookie16 "He then complains that my food is nowhere as good as his girlfriends, probably had something to do with the fact that the food was now cold." WTA ? He can eat at his gf's. If your husband wants to put up w Craig's b, he can do it without you and outside of your shared home.
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    Impressive-Union6961 As a minimum husband can cook for his lovely friend
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    Mach5Driver And do the dishes.
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    NoahVail2024 NTA. Perfectly reasonable to not have an extra turkey at Thanksgiving dinner.
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    dropaheartbeat Ha ha so true! Already do though unfortunately. OP your husband is not putting you first and being disrespectful to you. He shouldn't be excusing his friend or continuing to invite him. Right now he's a nuisance and upsetting you, you've made it clear and your husband still wants him in your home? He's hours late for dinner and brings things you don't want? Makes sexist comments? Ungrateful for the free food you spent time to prepare? You have a big husband problem here.
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    I say make husband be the host. Maybe his comments about the mess and food will hit him harder when it's his efforts being criticized.
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    PurplePufferPea THIS!!! Your husband can invite anyone he wants to the party that he's planning, prepping, serving and cleaning!!! However, in all seriousness, you have a serious husband problem!! His friend is outright ride to you and your husband is telling you to just laugh it off. And your husband keeps inviting the guy back. That's a hare No! Unacceptable!
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